my child's not perfect

[workshy]

I've never been in this situation but it feels like maddie's mum is self centered

pleased her child has adhd because it's not her fault???

eh?

When your child has a problem you blame yourself.

And lots of other people will blame parents when a child doesn't behave perfectly, or as expected.

That is the most articulate response I can come up with atm.

A diagnosis means a child can get more targetted help

I understood where the Mum was coming from

I completely understand her. When you have a child who is so difficult and exhausting, you do wonder what you've done to cause it. In her case, someone had looked at half the situation and drawn conclusions which did really make it feel like it was her fault for having PND and for splitting from her daughter's father. For her, finding out that there is a biological basis to her daughter's difficulties was still a blow, but meant she could stop blaming herself and see a way forward. Thinking that you have done something to damage your child is a really horrible feeling.

When, first, nursery saw that something was going on with DS1, who we had struggled with pretty much since birth, and, then, on the eve of his diagnosis of ASD with hyperactivity at age 3 (he has since been diagnosed with ADHD, as well), his play observation was cut short because he got wayyyyy over-excited and broke one of the rather expensive toys they had by tinkering with it and the psychiatrist leading the test commented that we must be permanently exhausted, were were relieved. Extremely relieved that we hadn't broken our child.

that's fair enough,I can understand that

thanks for explaining :)