Baby Hospital 21/06 Anyone watching?

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Just tuned in, can't seem to resist baby shows.

I see he did die then. Life is so unfair. I can't imagine how painful and devastating it is to lose a child.I've never even been pregnant,but it's my biggest fear.The thought of it makes me physically ill,I can't imagine how it must be for the family.

Ended up missing it, phone rang and been on til now. Will have to watch it again later.

He was only five days old? A lifetime isn't enough with one's child,and I know she's grateful for every minute,but five days is so little time.

And thankyou for the update,Hurricanewyn.

Poor Amy and her family, what a great lad her oldest is.

What happened to Michael? - did he go home to his mother in the end?

He did.After five months. I hope they were able to finally bond.

Sadly yes after only 5 days. Heartbreaking.

michael was well enough to be transferred to the local hospital close to home. hope that his mother visits him there.

Oh I hope she was able to bond with him, poor wee soul, and she's got some help if she needs it.

very sad. poor baby michael.

and poor alfie and his family. the poor mum had such a sad story didnt she, splitting up with the father then getting swine flu, on top of which, losing her baby

they never actually said Michael went home to his Mother though...they just said he was disgharged after 5 months. That was it, nothing else. I can't see how he went home to her, think you would have sbeen shown more of it if he did.

Thing is, there can be many reasons/excuses for not visiting, but when she talked about it she seemed quite hardfaced and not bothered....I would be crying lots if I couldnt get to my baby and would be embarrassed saying I hadnt been etc, she wasnt :(

Also you can often get help with travelling costs to hospital. I am sure if she wanted to go something could have been done, even if it was for a handful of visits, surely?

very sad :(

I sat trying not to judge at first, but it wasnt long til I was sat open mouthed...couldnt believe it

i thought they did, say he was going home to his mother, because i was waiting for them to show her, perhaps she was tryign to cover her emotions,
like the doctor said, they dont visit so they dont bond so they dont visit.
it must be hard on your own with 2 other little ones and being 14 miles away.
and the hospital did their best, moved him to a hospital nearer her home.
when they filmed her she had people with her and i was the same, Why Arent they taking her??
terribly sad.

God that programme was sad - I cried for Alfie's mum - she had such strength - to have just almost died through swine flu and still really ill herself and then for your baby to die - utterly heartbreaking. I thought her eldest boy (not told his age but looked young teen) was lovely- feeding the family, holding the fort and supproting his mum with love and care - she must be so proud of him.

I try not to be judgey pants but Tyler's mum being so pleased to have a new boyfriend and planning her life with him after just 6 weeks ? she smiled so much more about that than about her baby. Sad that she just wants to find a man to take care of her and her 2 children.She was so young and pretty - she could back to college and get a contraceptive implantand try to make a better life instead of chasing useless boys - having a baby by them will not make them stay!!.

Michael's mum did seem cold - but she had 2 little ones and perhaps she was PND or the thought of looking after a potentially very disabled child made her disconnect. She was in temporary accomodation and couldn't afford the fare to travel 14 miles. Don't really have enough info - I would have thought there would be a fund to help pay for transport in that situation. Also when my Dc has been in hospital I have heard conversations at other beds where the DRs and liaison staff are moving heaven and earth to get families rehoused, provide support and give detailed welfare/benefits advice and help with forms and letters of support etc.

Just watched. Oh poor baby Michael, desperately trying not to judge but failing I'm afraid. My heart just broke for him. I just hope he's being loved and cuddled now. I'd move heaven and earth to be with my baby. I know she had 2 older ones, but her baby was in such need.

Amy is amazing and her eldest Son was fantastic, what an amazing boy. Poor Lady though. So much to deal with. I hope life gets better and better for them, she'll never forget Alfie, but I hope she can move on from this in a positive way.

I think the medical staff are saints.

Totally agree with all you've said lexxity And I felt the same as you about Tyler's Mum javo - She seemed happier about having a new boyfriend than finally taking her gorgeous baby home

So sad about Alfie RIP little one x

But it wasn't just that Michael's mum didn't visit - when it was 10 days after his operation, the nurse said "it would be nice if she got in touch so we could tell her he's improving" - so she hadn't even phoned to find out how he was. Afraid I was too busy crying for him to have sympathy for her, after that.

What they said at the end was that he'd been discharged to "his family" - so I suppose not necessarily the mother. Although no grandparent, aunt etc had visited him either .

wonder if i could be a weekend baby cuddler

dmo I googled doing this after the programme! Apparently though they are used in the US, but not really in the UK. Hospitals and maternity units take volunteers but from what I've read it is more domestic / admin stuff, fetching tea, photocopying etc. Shame - I would volunteer like a shot to be a baby cuddler

It's very peculiar. Some parents are virtually glued to the incubator, but others rarely visit. I think hospital phobia/discomfort is more widespreasd then people think, but I still feel at parents who hardly visit their child.