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Just to remind anyone who wants to watch it

i posted this on a different thread

' think its too easy to sit and judge, but the boy hadnt eaten properly since he was a baby, i think they had just had enough. it was appauling top watch, but when a child doesnt eat for even daysd on end then parents do start to panic, and some do get pushy with regards to food. i know i used to. but now i just relax, if they dont eat, ok, they'll eat next meal but they are not allowed snacks inbetween if they havent eaten breakfast/lunch/dinner. '

agree misdee

sorry furball didn,t see this .
i found it hard to watch last night, agree with what some of you said,they didn,t realise what they where doing,i think a lot of it is starting good habits off from the start,most of the problems are started by parents,i know because i have made mistakes myself.i should think the programme hilights the bad bits for good viewing.

definitely. The poor mum must have cringed to think that all her friends/family were watching it last night. But I guess they sign up for it

Thing is though, it wasn't that he was just a bad/picky eater, he had developed a phobia through having gastrointeritis(sp?!) when he was little.

I wonder if she had a hv who could have advised. Or a nutritionist through her gp

You would think so wouldn't you? That's why I saw it as more the Mum's fault. Surely after he was ill she must have taken him to see someone about his eating if he wasn't eating anything at all.
Agree it must be hard though when your child won't eat - but the logical side of me thinks surely it's commom sense that shoving it in his face isa going to make it 1000 times worse!

definitely agree there zephyrcat

It was an awful situation. I felt so sorry for that poor boy.

When I was 10 I had the same thing, I was ill with a tummy bug and then I couldn;t eat anything for about 2 weeks afterwards.

Every time I tried to eat I threw up. I can remember my parents pleading with me to eat and I couldn;t. It got to the stage even sitting at the table and seeing food would make me retch. In the end they backed off because they could see it was just making it worse. I got really weak and felt terrible.

Eventually once the pressure was off I started nibbling on things again & after a few weeks was fine.

How terrible that it had been going on for years!

could someone please explain the method supernanny used to pursuade the boy to eat again? I heard bits about it at lunchtime and would love to try a new approach for my faddy ds1.

I'm glad to see I wasn't the only one who couldn't bring myself to watch it. I saw the very first few minutes (before the credits started) and was in tears... caught the last 5 mins to get a happy ending though

Next weeks looks good... Supernanny revisited type thing.

I think the main thing she did was to tell the parents to SHUT UP! Not to go on and on at mealtimes, and not to argue in front of the kids.

Apart from that it was nicer grub, a choice of two possible platefuls, and the standard consistent "Praise the good, ignore the bad" which the kids, being nice little boys, responded to immediately. The praise took the form of colored stickers right on the laminated placemat, which I had never seen or though of before, and they even took the mats along to a restaurant I think, with a record for the whole week there in front of ALL of them which proved to the over-anxious parents that the little guy WAS trying.

EEfs the first night, correct me if im wrong here guys, they wrote on a plate with a pen...divided the plate up into 4 and on each section they wrote peas/chicken/tomatoe/potatoe...and then there was a second plate with something like sausage/beans.cucumber/sweetcorn. They showed him the plates and explained that he had to pick one of the plates for dinner.
He didnt, his wee brother did so thats what they all had for dinner.
He didnt eat it but he did point at it, ask questions and didnt ruin mealtimres but squalking and spewing etc...
They also had a chart, protein, carbohydrates, excuse my spelling, something and something...whatever they may be
And whenever he ate the food that was protien he got a circle sticker, if he got all 4 he got a big sticker and if he got so many he was rewarded........

....hope that helps!!!!!

eefs, supernanny had a reward placemat and put a sticker on if he had a bite of a vegetable, bite of carb, bite of protein and bite of fruit (I think?) You can make your own chart though. When he had a bite of all four he got a special smiley sticker - 3D shiny one

"being nice little boys, responded to immediately."

They were lovely kids weren't they

The things I noticed were that the parents weren't sitting down with the kids at the table let alone eating with them but just hovering/looming above them. And while I can see how worrying it might be for them (and he did look very thin IMO although also plenty of energy)they obviously didn't go for setting an example.

When she said "I just eat ready meals and DH just eats out of the freezer" I couldn't help wondering what the difference was.

Either DH didn't bother defrosting, or hers were the slightly more expensive ones you keep in the fridge

I couldn't get over the way they stood over the elder boy at the table,reminded me of animals in a pack hovering over prey tbh

They are two lovely little boys

eefs the other two things on the placemat chart were fruit and vegetables. He got a little dot sticker in each of those if he just took one bite of somethng or ate a single pea etc, he didn't have to eat the whole lot. The next stage was they all talked amongst thwemselves at the table about school etc and didn't make a fuss if he tried something new - so while they were getting on talking he would sit and try things because they weren't 'in his face' so to speak.

fair play to jo I think I would of dragged that mother out and given her some of her own medicine and a slap for good measure

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Thanks RT. I'll be there!

you're welcome