DS is 15. Does lots of sport, 4 or 5 lots of rowing per week plus karate & is sort of in a band but they just get togethr once in a blue moon and haven't performed yet.
Until yr 10 he was always out at weekends, going to the cinema most Saturdays after rowing, etc. Had 2 close friends and about 4 or 5 others who he'd hang out with.
These days, he often can't be bothered to do anything at weekends after the rowing training & any races have been done. His friendship group has changed since the tutor groups were shaken up in September, but he's still got one of his orignal close friend, a new close friend and about 2 or 3 others.
EG today, he was supposed to be going to a fair in the afternoon, with a friend's mum picking them up after training, lunch at the friend's house, going to the fair & I'd have picked him up at teatime. Instead he called me straight after training to say it was raining & he couldn't be bothered going to the fair as it's wet and he didn't want to blow loads of money (he's saving for quite a few things at the moment), so he's been sat in his room all afternoon on the ps3.
I just suggested that he called another close friend (who always does all the running in terms of invitations to ds etc) & said I'd run them down to Pizza Express & to get a dvd & the friend could stay for a sleepover. He was really disinterested & is often like that now. He says he enjoys his own company but I do worry that if he keeps cancelling things & only ever doing stuff when other people invite him he'll end up doing nothing outside school except sports. The phone doesn't ring for him anywhere near as often as it used to. He just says he sees enough of people at school and wants to hang out by himself. I know another mate up the road is likely to pop round later today or tomorrow as he normally does, and ds will be pleased to see him, they'll have a laugh together and they often end up having an impromptu sleepover.
WWYD? Leave him in peace or keep prodding?
Sorry this is long.