I wonder is my 13 year old DD is acting normally. She seems to just copy off everyone else as if she has no mind of her own. She tells us she likes certain music but can't recite the names of the groups she likes, she just knows she likes them because "her mates do".
She dresses a certain way because "her mates do" and dislikes an item if "her mates do" and likes something else as long as "her mates do".
When Michael Jackson died her initial reaction was "oh my god, who IS that? why does anyone care that he's died? total has-been, nobody even knows who he is".
But then it became trendy to like him so next minute she's his biggest fan spending her money on jacko memrobelia, t-shirts, albums etc etc and listening to him constantly. I once overheard this convo:
DD "I've just bought this MJ bag"
friend "MJ?? how sad, I can't stand him"
DD big pause "no, I can't either, it does my head in"
friend "so why did you buy the bag?"
DD another pause "a joke. I bought it as a joke so I can put pictures on facebook for a laugh".
Last weekend she went to a friends house for the night. She left our house with "trendy" clothes on, thinking she's a bit tough, hating girly stuff and listening to pop. She returned sunday night with thick black eye-liner, gothy clothes, giggling like a 3 year old (because apparantly friend said she looks cute when she's girly) and listening to heavy metal. After everything she said she added an annoying "hehe!" it was driving me nuts.
It annoys me that she's never herself. She can never make her own decisions on use her own mind. I was never like that and DS is not like that. Is this even normal for 13 year old girls? DH says "its just a phase" but I'm worried about the next time a friend says "here smoke this, its "cool" " because I know damn well she'll do it!