My 14 year old DD is truanting...again

[KatieScarlett2833]

At the beginning of December, I got a call from school on my day off to inform me that my DD was not in school and had not been for 4 days. After much wailing I discovered that she had been inviting her boyfriend (who I didn't know about)and his mates round to my house with a few of her girlfriends. The boyfriend is 17 and they have had sex, resulting in an ongoing police investigation. During this time she also ran away from our house and her grandmothers house at night to see this boy. After much discussion I thought I had got through to her and I know for a fact that she is no longer seeing this boy.

Cut to today, 1st day back at school and I have just discovered she is truanting today with one of her friends. I have texted her and the only reply I get is her telling me to phone the police and have her put into care. I am at my wits end, any advice would be great

Yes, ban the friend is definately going to happen and I will be discussing this with the school tomorrow. The friends mother is lovely and will understand as we have discussed this at some length before.

oh, my- mine was an Irish horseman too- spooky.

KS, hope it helps. I do think it would have been the only way to control me- no options. Good luck.

Im in same situation with d13. She refuses to go to school, when she does she walks back ou whenever she likes. She has put herself on the pill and has people in the hse when im at work. Tried the police bringing her home at nights! They put her in a cell. All she cared about was that she would be late some boy she was getting to know. School have tried to help but cant do much.I have tried SS but they cant help, YISP worker - not helped now im waiting for a fine from the welfare officer! d13 finds this amusing. She really is horrible at the moment!Any ideas would be most welcome!

Update, had 4 weeks of good behaviour, excellent reports from school, priviledges restored, everyone happy. Then it all started again. Truanting, new older boyfriend, stealing from disabled grandmother, drug taking in school, etc.

I eventually cracked and forced the SS to take he into care for a few days for the sake of her health (I was very, very angry) and mine. She has also been removed from school and we are curently awaiting a start date for new school. All contact with the girl and her group of friends has been severed. I wish I had done this months ago.