Teen being a pain when people are using the bathroom

[Gateaux]

A few months ago, DS (14) got into the habit of going off on one if anyone used the bathroom when he needed it. When people are on toilet, he screams abuse at the bathroom, thumps the door, kicks it, shouts disgusting songs and passes obscene notes under the door until the person hurries up and finishes.

It just used to be with us (the family) but now he does it to anyone. My poor mum was in there at the weekend and almost fell off the toilet when he started screaming and banging and then this morning, the plumber was in there and DS shouted "wanker, get out of my bathroom now!" through the door. The plumber was fuming.

How would you handle this?

does he have additional needs?

This is not normal behaviour. Is he like this generally?

Wow he sounds furious. Is he only like this about the bathroom?

WTF I would be seriously pissed off if a child did that to me - what sanctions have you put in place for this behaviour.

Get a lock for his bedroom door and he won't have to wank in the bathroom.

Does he have behaviour problems or is it just in this scenario?

I would give him a bucket for his bedroom - if my DS (who is a similar age) behaved in that way I'd knock his head off I'm afraid. Totally unacceptable.

Is he apologetic afterwards? Can he see that his behaviour is out of order?

I think we need to know more here. For a teen without SN, this does sound very disturbing. Is there anything you are not telling us? I feel tempted to reel off a list of punishments for a) inconsiderate behaviour b) appalling language c) rudeness to visiting strangers etc etc that would leave him without any amusements and creature comforts for months to come, but have a horrible feeling that this is going to turn out an AIBU by stealth and that he has some genuine problem we are not being told about.

Sorry - have never done this before but .

If true how do you deal with it? You give him a right telling of for being so disrespectful to anyone one and you do it right back at him!

If he doesn't stop you ground him or ban computer time or whatever.

He needs to learn respect.

Assuming he doesn't have SN, take the door off his bedroom.

bump - want to know more.

id tell him to stop behaving like a spoiled brat, then i would take anything he valued away from him until he said sorry.

i may open the bathroom door, throw a glass of cold water over him and tell him to " fuck off whilst i finish having a shit"

Your family do seem to have a wide range of emotional and behavioural issues Gateaux. Can I suggest that instead of the advice you can get from people on a parenting forum, you instead contact your GP to refer you for some kind of family therapy? Alternatively, there are a range of contact details given on this page. I do think the number and range of issues you post about would be better handled by a qualified psychiatrist rather than other parents.