My son as just turned 16 and has been seeing his girlfriend since the summer holidays.
She lives in a neighbouring town, and he visits her 3 or 4 nights a week, but because
I work nights, I can't always pick him up from hers, so her mum either brings him back or (more recently) allows him to stay over.
I was quite shocked to discover that when he stays there, they share a bed - the shock being due to the fact that she's only 14!
I've met the mum and whilst she seems very nice, she's obviously the sort of mother who believes in treating their daughters as 'best friends' (apparently they do everything together, tell each other everything, etc etc)and who has encouraged her to behave in an adult fashion from an early age (the girlfriend's younger sister si already wearing makeup and talking about boyfriends at age 9 - I thought she was nearer 13).
The issue has now cropped up where my son would like his girlfriend to stay here occasionally, and expects her to sleep in his room.
I've said no, for two reaons, one, because I feel she's simply too young (whatever her mum thinks) and secondly, because it puts my older daughter in the awkward situation of having to enforce my rules while I'm at work.
My son is obviously angry at my decision, and points out that if her mum doesn't mind, I shouldn't mind either.
Am I really being old fashioned?
I'd just add that I've impressed on my son the need to use condoms and he says his girlfriend's has contraceptive injections, so hopefully pregnancy is not an issue.