Oh no how to deal with this? Think DDs friend taken some of my makeup

[wangle99]

DD and her friend are 12. Friend came for a sleepover on Saturday night. I don't tend to wear full makeup over the weekend, went to put it on this morning and missing are 2 Clinique foundations and a Clinique cover up cream.

DD wouldn't use them - I suffer from acne and she knows about transference of bacteria etc. DDs friend has been the only other person in our bathroom.

How on earth do I approach this. I cannot afford to replace them, if I could I would be tempted to just avoid the confrontation but I just can't.

Please advise [saad]

even lol

Just ask her if she has 'accidentally' taken your makeup home.
If you don't accuse her she may hand them back.

What deos you dd say?

I haven't spoken to DD yet, she has gone back to boarding school this morning and wont' be home till Friday although I have emailed her demanding she phones home asap!

I would imagine she doesn't know if the friend has taken it, DD knows how I scrimped and saved to get it!

(DD has high value music scholarship to school, I'm not rolling in cash lol)

hmm difficult one then.

Do you have her friends email?

I do actually! Would you think an email would be ok? Don't want her mother to think I'm hassling her. Although I would be very polite and non accusing.

Can't see her owning up myself

I would email your daughter first as she may have taken them to give to someone. or perhaps a joint email to the both of them asking which one has accidentally taken them to school. "which one" usually prompts one to own up.

do you have the mothers email address? or phone number?
I would talk to the parent, saying, as DD is away, I wondered if you could ask your dd if she has mistakenly picked up my make up.

yes email your dd first
tell her you will email the friend
send a copy of friens email to her mum

all non accusatory of course

DDs school just phoned she isn't well so DH gone to get her, looks like I'll be able to question her about it sooner rather than later. I will hold off emailing the friend until have spoken to DD.

Spoken to DD who says she knows nothing about it. Emailed DDs friend who says she didn't even see it (bit difficult was on bathroom windowsill).

Can't see where else it could have gone. Obviously after friend saying that can't really go to her mum either.

Could actually. Say to DDs friend you've also e-mailed her mother about it, just in case mother says anything. Fear of hearing from mother may get her to own up and drop in that you have a terribly contagious skin condition you wouldn't want her to catch. [mean, me, never]