help my daughter is 11 and slapping her face

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I am so worried my daughter has always has quiet bad ezema but in the last 6 months is slapping her face really hard most nights causing it to be scared, sore and red. she won't seem to be honest why she is doing this, i have taken her to a trusted friend who is a healer and she speaks confidentaly to him about her problems as she says she can not tell me because she will upset me. But the problems continue,we keep falling out and she can be so stubon, we use to be so close but i feel we are driffting apart. I am a single mum and do not get support from my parents, i feel lost to know what to do, any advise would be greatly appreciated.

My 7yo ds hits himself in the face and head when is is annoyed with himself or is in trouble for some reason. He has Aspergers and I think it's linked to that. I don't interrogate him about why he does it, I just take his hands gently and say that I don't want him to hurt himself because I love him. It works at the time but he still does it the next time.

Sorry your dd is worrying you I do hope you get better advice than mine.

Greensleeves, thank you for taking the time to reply I will try that.

I wish you well with your ds

You seem to be linking the excema with the slapping, but imo, it may not necessarily be related.

Has she just started secondary? If so she may be feeling a bit overwhelmed by it all, I know my ds was wobbly for the first six months.

Self harm needs to be addressed, imo. I'd take her to the GP if I were you, s/he may refer you to a child psychologist who may work with your daughter using CBT which addresses all sorts of problems which preteens may experience.

Good luck.

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Sorry haven't got experience with self harming,but saw your post and thought about trying to get your dd referred to camhs.
I think you would have to go through you GP.
It must be so hard for you to see her hurting herself