DD (nearly 12) has been shut up in her room all day. I know she's still alive because the food I left outside her door has gone, but I'm beginning to wonder if I should go and say something.
Background is, I went up to bed at 11.30 pm and she and DS were still up and mucking around/playing music, even though I'd said at 9pm 'Go to bed, you don't have to go straight to sleep but you have to get into bed'. Didn't want to get in an argument so I just said 'right, just pack up and get to bed, I don't want to hear another word' because it was bloody late and I know the neighbours get up early for work. Cue 'oh but it's not my fault, I'm so innocent' followed up with 'why won't you listen to me, you're so unreasonable' when I tell her to just be quiet and go to bed, it's late, we'll talk in the morning. This soon descends into screaming abuse, kicking me and threatening suicide at the top of her lungs when I stand my ground and remind her some people are asleep.
Now I left it that I'll talk to her when she's prepared to stop acting like a toddler (yes I know but it was really late). I get that she's embarrassed at being caught out, she hates being in the wrong. But I really don't know what to go up and say to her. I was really hoping she'd come down and at least get herself some food even if she didn't want to talk. Has she just backed herself into a corner, and do I need to make the first move? I am so sick of the tantrums though, sometimes I long for the day she'll move out.
Any thoughts/advice?