which is worse terrible 2s or terrible teens

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there seems to be no reosoning with either!!
Actually the 2 year old maybe is a bit easier!! At least you can distract them!
Are there many mums of teenagers on here, all threads seem to have stopped!

Agree fostermum! It is quite fun trying to outwit them sometimes because they are so switched on and can catch me out sometimes. The hardest thing is saying No and sticking by it. Their powers of reasoning and argument are very finely honed and you just have to be on the ball to not let them get the better of you sometimes!

ya your not kidding there but i find it keeps me youngi have different kids come and go all the time but one thing they all have in common is that they think i was born middleaged,and can believe that i have been where they are now

Had a 'discussion' with one of my teenage students re the rights and wrongs of the schools dress code not that long ago. At the end she said, 'you should be a lawyer, Miss'. I'm thinking of it as on the job training for when my two are this age.

It always strikes me that there are more similarities between teens and 2s than there are differences!

biggest one is its a lot harder to carry teen upstairs to bed when they dont feel well

I have three dd is 16, and the ds's are 12 and 8 and perhaps my memory is hazy (perhaps!!??!!) but I can't really remember the two's as being much of a trial, then again I can't really remember much!

As I have posted on here before I can't praise dd enough, but she is by no means a saint. Ds1 however had a phase of being the subject of every thread on teenage behaviour ( I know he isn't a teenager but he bloody well behaves like one!) I still have to wait and see with ds2.

I think that the thing is you can't generalise, it's like the 'are boys easier than girls?' threads, some are, some aren't - you just have to make the best of what you have!

I think that there is probably less worry with two's but teens are more interesting - more of a challenge!

What a lovely pic of your dd lillibet! She is just gorgeous! She is almost exact age of my DD. Was that pic taken at her prom? I have to say I would love to put one of mine on here but am technically challenged!
Agree with you. They are a delight at times and the good times are just sooo good. I love clothes shopping with my dd, gossiping and have a laugh together and those bits make up for all the hormonal screaming matches!

sorry, lillibet. Didn't read it properly - see pic is at yr wedding!

I agree there are good and bads for both. Not sure which is easier to reason with. And sometimes I dont understand what either are saying!!!!!

lol fostermum at the game! my son actually tried to argue the social merits of getting stoned. how my bad parenting ( thats the bad parenting that doesn't let him do it and grounds him for a month every sinlge time) let to him being socially ostrcised and the detrimental effects from that.

i listened intently for ages and tried to reason with him in a calm an informed way until my dh shouted "what the f8ck, are f8cking nuts?" turned to me" why , why are you even having a f8cking conversatin with him" cue look at ds with the 'shit on shoe' stare. turn backto ds" f8ck off to bed."

nice. now, now dya see why i could never be a laura ashleyite?

custardo - maybe get him to watch panorama on Sunday - it's called 'cannabis - what every teenager needs to know'. Investigating, among other things, links with depression and psychotic illness.

teens

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I am battling against swearing!! Apparently it is just our language evolving!!!!

on holiday we got chatting to the parents of the friend that my 15 year old made and he was chatting with us all at the table when he said " dad your a f*cking liar..." the dad didn't bat an eyelid ( he had that look of resignation you tend to get) but is houted at his kid " how dare you speak to your father like that!" he apologised!

I don't wnat to hijack this thread but am about to start a new one asking for advice on our 12 year old ds - all opinions welcome! And I do mean that!!

I have both a terrible 2yr old and a teen, (plus an almost teen ) and would say the teen is worse everytime. sigh.

Mine are 14 12 10 2.5 and 8mnths!!
They all there moments I can tell you!!!
they all have good points too!!!

Custardo, I have had a really crap day with my 2,6 and (nearly) 12 year old squabbling and you have just made me howl - thanks!!

I don't think that I want to know the answer to this one. The DTs and DS1 will be toddler and teen tantrumming at the same time. SOB!!!!!!!!!!

thought I would see how we are all doing!! Teenagers and toddlers love em all!!!

im with you kids are kids all loverly in there own sweet way

hi - I'm a dad and work from home while my wife has the high powered proper job! (I earn enough to pay for all the luxuries in life - piano lessons, fencing classes, tennis coaching, skiing and summer holidays, weekends away, cleaner, window cleaner etc, etc) and am otherwise concerned with the real hard work of looking after my lovely 2 boys. We three guys all do karate together and otherwise I feel a little alienated from their sporting life.

They are just at the age where I am not sure I can cope. The elder will be 12 in Feb and the younger 10 in September and I really want to know how to broach the subject of relationships, sex, responsibility and fun.

It is a transition in their lives which, from my own (an horrendous mess socially and emotionally) I wish never to repeat.

How do I tackle these things to give them the confidence to ask and share any concerns when they are 13 or 15 or 19 so that I become their friend as well as their father?

I believe in being open and honest at all times!
My son 14, came home from school after they had had a health day or something and was talking about condoms and c cards etc. so I just said is there anything else you need to ask? I am here.
I also gave him the 'girls can catch you out ' talk!
He thinks i am daft, but who cares he also knows i am here!