Anyone else got a dirty dd? Its driving me crazy!!!!!

[mosschops30]

God I am so bloody about this.

DD started her periods properly last month, and thats a whole other story.
But anyway I have asked her to put her used towels in a bag and then take them out in the morning to put in an outside bin.
Yesterday she 'forgot' (said with that lovely teenage smirk) obviously I did it to make sure theres no smell.
Anyway same again this morning, she got up late after several 'snoozes' spent ages on her make up, then left stinking bag of towels from last night and this morning in a bag on the floor.

God I could scream , its not isolated, I have tried to encourage her to have a bath or shower daily during her period which she has ignored, she has to be nagged into bathing every other day normally. She often 'forgets' to put on deoderant and is more concerned about her hair and make up than her cleanliness.
I have discussed with her how important it is and that no one will be looking at her face if she smells of BO, but its not working.

Is it just mine??? and WWYD to make it better?

Get that little bin Mosschops, stick in the bathroom and tell her categorically that towels need to wrapped up and in the bin. As someone said I'd threaten to take away her straighteners or suchlike if she doesn't.
She will grow out of it, when my dss was a teenager, it was boaktastic venturing into his room. Dirty plates, dirty mugs with mould, tissues with god knows what...

Well mosschops not sure if I can help you as I have 2 DS. However I don't think uabu at all. Clearly we don't have the period issue but I expect wet bathtowels/clothes/pe kit to be picked up. The battle cry in this house is 'I'm your mother not your skivvy!' frquently rings out down the landing and stairs where there is frequently lots of eyeballs rollling and sighs that mean mum's on one again! I know that I'm nagging so I back off and DH does the moaning. He tells them that everybody lives here so everybody picks up and mucks in.

The hygiene issue is baffling. I work with teenagers and even just going out for a walk or going canoeing with the girls and you would think they were going to a prom! They are that scrubbed up and sparkly. My DS is similar in a boy way about grooming. He showers twice a day, the anti perspirant goes on, lynxing, moisturises and gells hair. His mates and cousins are the same. I'm sure if your DS hangs round with girls that take a lot of pride in their appearance it will rub off on her to.

ds is only 4 so no girlfriends as yet (or ever if I have my way ) but he's already totally different to his big sis in that he loves the bath, would clean his teeth 5 times a day if I let him, puts his clothes in wash basket etc etc, he will make some lucky woman very happy

Think the bin in her room is the way to go then, or in bathroom if I can squeeze it in.

oh and deffo threaten with removal of straighteners thanks for all your help

My DD 13 is exactly the same. Leaves towels still attached to dirty knickers on the floor. Thank goodness it is only us 2 in the house. I really worry what happens when she goes to stay with her dad or friends. Last time she obviously had not used any as I had to throw all her knickers away. She reguarly 'forgets' to use her deodorant or shower. I'm just hoping it's a phase she is going through and that once she meets a boy this will all change. And yes I do provide scented nappy sacks.

Sorry musschops.. I refered to your DD as Ds It was just a typo!! You'll get used to ne sorry I mean me!!

If I'd only known earlier that this site isn't just about babies...

mosschops may well be describing my 13 year old daughter (what is dd by the way? - is it Darling daughter?):soooo preoccupied about what she looks like but a laissez faire and very haphazard attitude towards showers. It seems so alien to be making a rule about showering but I think I'm going to have to. Re the towels - we are able to have a small bin in the bathroom she (when reminded) uses and I think her "embarrassment" factor with a brother around and having only just started periods is enough to ensure she hides the evidence!

The bright side is that my two older teenagers do now shower ALL the time..I think peer pressure is the thing.

I have a question about spots...maybe should start a new thread...

hello Fififi

yes DD means 'darling daughter'

list of acronyms

My DD started her period in the summer holidays. We were living on a boat at the time, and she was in the water all day, (she was 12 yrs and 5months)She asked if she could use a tampon, so she could still swim and snorkel all day. In year six tampond had been advocated as an option, as long as they were changed often After talking to a docter who was also on our flotilla, I agreed to this. She has used them since, except at night. Could your daughter use tampons, and put them down the loo?