If your teen doesn't get EMA...............

[lilibet]

Do you give them 'pocket money' ?
And do they have to do anything to get the pocket money?
Or do you expect them to get a part time job?

Ds1 doesn't qualify for EMA but money is still tight due to other children, mortgage etc (the sort of things that the govt don't take into acount when calculating it ) and after a conversation with a mate whose daughter gets £20 a week and they give her £10 pocket money I just wanted to see what other parents did.

It's so difficult especially as dd worked her way through college and we didn't give her a penny. If we are seen to treat them even the tiniest bit different she will throw a fit. She hates her brother

i have to fork out £101.00 per MONTH for the twins train fair.

i feel bitter - although i KNOW I SHOULDN'T. my friend lives in greater manchester and they can get a pass for the area for a tenner

And do you give them pocket money Custy? Or do they ahve jobs?

no pocket money - ds is goin to get his apprenticeship placement which pays.

dd had a job until recently.

however they get paid for walking the dog. and i give them dinner money - i reckon if they want a social life - they should work for it.

DS 1 (17) doesn't get EMA but has worked all summer to fund his social life - babysitting/waitering/painting grandmas house etc etc. He does have an allowance (but not as much as he would like!)and plays sport on Sat and Sun so regular work is difficult, however he is expected to do something to fund himself! As we explained to him we're not merely recycling the family money in his direction he has to find new income streams!
I think by this age they have to earn some money even if it is doing stuff for you. They can't just laze around complaining but need to be pro-active. There's plenty of opportunity out there just not in the conventional 'saturday job' way.
Mamhaf - Like the idea of getting rid of the cleaner and getting the teen to do it.

No EMA

DS1 is a bone idle git. He wants to go out and have fun? He can fund it. No more pocket money after 16 chez SR. I'm not working f/t to fund DS1's social life. No siree. Perhaps if he was more thoughtful or helpful around the house and didn't stay up until 3am playing online poker on facebook (his 'job' atm apparently) then I'd be more inclined to bung him a few quid here and there.

Oh SR, that could be me. It is so hard. Todya he doesn't go into college and I have told him that he has to clean and tidy his room and if he does I will pay for him to go to the rugby match with the rest of us.

No way will he do it and then I'll feel crap when the four of us troop off and leave him at home.

yup, know that feeling too. This tough love business is tricky

No EMA. DS2 has a Saturday job which funds his social life, holidays, and basically anything other than what I consider to be necessities. I buy his basic clothing, give him a small allowanc to top up phone for calls to us, buy college stationary, toiletries etc. He buys his own 'non- essential 'clothing, take aways etc.

DS1 just gone to uni and having to rely on us until loans and grant come through. Would love to be able to pay for him, but our income does not allow ius to do so, therefore he will leave uni with massive debts because even on the full grant, it won't leave him much after books and lab equipment have been purchased. We have said we will try to pay most of his food bills. Goodness knows what will happen if he can't stay in halls next year!

no ema here

I so agree with ponders post

I know kids who are getting ema ,divorced parents and they get so much financial suuport from absent fathers ,seriously loads.

ema is a joke

dd has part-time job

we pay her phone contract £20/month
I buy her the occassional necessity ,eg. a bra today and will probably help out with winter coat but she is pretty self sufficient

we did pay for her driving lessons though in case you are all thinking 'mean bitch"