DD does nothing EXCEPT go on her computer...AAARRRHHHHHH

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Its driving me nuts. DD spends ALL her spare time on facebook,itunes,msn. She has zero conversation and quite frankly is boring. I know I could take away the computer or limit her time but does anyone elses child spend ALL their time on computers and have NO OTHER interest. Is this normal? She is 14. BTW, no matter what suggestions I offer as an alternative it is always met with negative response.

barrel i do think your dds sound different

sorry no advice but an aspergers type child in our house has meant no screens bar dvds at week ends for my dcs

they have adapted well but my personal view is that a youth spent screening is a bit of a waste

if dd (almost 15) wants to yak to mates id rather she did it in person or on phone

When I was 14/15 I spent most of my time mooning around in my bedroom, listening to music, reading and generally moping, occasionally spending hours on the phone to my mates. If t'internet had existed back that far I'm sure that's what I'd have been doing instead (probably would have been more social with it - MSN, networking sites etc mean that online is connected to a vast array of people!)

If she's doing a lot of sport, maybe she just needs, or even just wants to chill out on the internet when she's at home? Is it really that bad? I have to say I agree with Ra's post on this

My eldest dd wanted to make waffles for the family yesterday morning so we found a good recipe off the internet, I helped her a tiny bit when asked but generally she had the satisfaction of doing it herself (they were delicious!).

For X factor my dd2 made popcorn for us all and in the day time all 3 were at at a triathlon club where they cycle, swim and run followed by riding friends' ponies in the afternoon (activities dd led btw) and cycling off to meet friends in next village (linked by bridlepath so not on roads).

They used MSN to coordinate what time to meet etc and check with parents and have mobile phone access in case of emergencies. They and their friends are busy, active and happy.

I do believe confidence comes from being active and fit because an awful lot of young girls can get self conscious if they mooch about inside too much. But it sounds op as if your dd is exhausted after a long day at school and so wants wind down time as 7pm finish time is late!