Teenagers and divorce

[welshmammy2009]

Just wondered if anyone had any advice on this.

I've recently split with my husband and we are going through a divorce, i have a 16 year old daughter who just doesn't want to talk about it and is bottling it all up.

Im worried because shes really caught in the middle because of her age she understands everything going on and to make it worse her dad isn't having any contact with her.

I don't want this to make her lose confidence in men i think she thinks that anyone she gets close to now is going to leave her.

I've tried to look for information on websites but most of them are aimed at younger children its like these websites think at 16 you shouldnt care if your parents split up

Any advice would be much appretiated

I'm sorry to hear that your daughter is going through a tough time (I was 18 and my sister 16 when my parents split).

Did you know that Relate offer services for young people (aged 10-25) affected by their parents splitting, as well as their better-known couples counselling? Their website has some suggestions for books as well, which might be aimed at older children. See here for information on their work with young people and here for some book recommendations.

Do you think it would be useful for her to talk to someone outside the family? You could suggest she calls Get Connected, which is a confidential young people's helpline which signposts young people to more detailed help. They have a phone helpline, email and webchat (she might find it easier to email or webchat if she's finding it hard to talk about what's going on). Here's their website.

Or you might find it useful to call Parentline Plus for some advice on how you can handle things for your daughter?

It's great that you are trying Hope this helps your daughter.

Sorry - last sentence should have read "It's great that you are trying to help her through this. Hope this helps your daughter". Sorry - posted too quickly!

Have you got a brother? My parents divorced when me and my 3 siblings were all teenagers. I remember my mum's brother coming when me and my mum were crying to look after us and take us out for lunch. May help her see that men can be kind?

Thanks wigeon will havehad a quick look at those websites

Crokky no i dont have a brother would be great to have someone though who can show my daughter not all men are like this.