Bit of a long story here so i will keep to the main points only.
dd's behaviour has been worrying for the past 2 years and we didnt know why. She disclosed last year that her biological father sexually abused her. Her life has spiralled since then. She is incredibly vulnerbale, needy, insecure and IMO needs to be surrounded by people that genuinely love and care for her.
Her behaviour has deteriorated since.
She truants daily and hangs around with undesirable people who themselves are always in trouble. Plus she was diagnosed with quite severe dyslexia 6 months ago which explains other problems she has had at skool for many years.
She is very easily influenced and will sadly do anything she is asked to do. We have alw\ys been fair and reasonable with her whilst still having consistent boundaries in place.
We discovered indecent images on the interent of her and managed to get them removed. Again this shows her vulnerablity. She seems to latch onto people that have similar or other issues.
Eg an older boyfriend whom we welcomed into our house and spoke to regulary to maintian as good a relationship as possible with him and keeping a close eye on our daughter. He comes from a family known to social services as his mother is an alcoholic and he suffered neglect as a child. He also disclosed to us theat the lodger living in his house sexually abused him for years and he is concerned this is now happeneing to his younger brother.
It has come to light that our dd has been lying to us and sleeping around this lads house, his mother was very blase about the fact my dd is only 15 and seems to be encouraging it. Sexually explicit phots of my daughter were found on her b/f phone by my edest dd whom deleted about 20 of them. The b/f is very controlling and they constantly argue.
We grounded my dd for one week after discovering all of the lies and deciet. She decided she didnt want to be grounded and didnt return home. Police called etc.
Eventually found her 2 days later through the b/f drunkern mother blurting it out at a fun day to my eldest dd who happened to be ther.
To my utter horror my dd had gone to my sister flat.
Everyone must now be thinking thats fine but sadly this is the worst place she could have possibliy gone to.
My sis has been a drug user for 22 years, she has mental health problems, is a very unstable character, goes into depressive states, sufferes terrible paranoia and is an emotional unstable and damaged person. I have no contact with her at all and havent done for quite a while due to the manner in which she conducts her life and the discovery of my eldest dd telling me the awful things she had been telling her which really affected her emotionally. things so bad as well. She has a son who has awful problems and has been receiving counselling and therapy since he was 4/5 he is 9 now. his School suspend him regulary due to his violence etc etc.
My sis frequently texts my dad (she could not text me as i changed my number so i diditkeep geting lots of abuse)right up to my dd going to her house saying she is going to commit suicide and we are all to blame for her problems etc etc.
Sadly she is a person who is extremly mucked up and in need of loads of help which may not make any diference after all this time anyway.
My sis has already started with the mind games/poisoning on my dd and now my dd is refusing to talk to me refusing to come home. My dd is so vulnerbale and has self harmed and threatened to commit suicide in the past, she is emoitionally already a wreck and im so concerned about her being in such a emotionally abusive unstable enviroment mixing with so many undesirable people.
There is sooo much more to this story but thats the nuts and bolts of it.
What on earth can i do????