do you think there is an upper age limit to grounding a teenager?

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Obviously depends on loads of things but I'd be interested in others opinons.

don't have any teens but do remember being one, and I think at 18 you'd be lucky to get them to pay attention. My sis left home at that point because she thought my parents were being too strict. After all, they're technically adults by then!

I agree 18 is too old

what about 17 I think that is bordering on too old as well..sppose it depends on the child

I think you're right - and on whether the child is still at school or working. If working, then too old for grounding, really.

I think grounding is a mistake anyway, but after 16 it would be ridiculous.

having no family experience of children living at home after 18 I am of the opinion that if they want to live in my house they live by my rules.
But then I have no family experience of grounding either.
Oh dear, teenage years are going to be hard.

dd's friend 17yrs has been grounded for a week for getting drunk
my initial thought was that it was a bit ridiculous

I do think encouraging and guiding them to make the right decisions is the way for us.Fail to see the point in grounding at this age

I am aware it is a huge grey area though.

I think it depends a bit on the teen and the circumstances: if s/he is earning a wage and contributing to the household income then s/he is really an adult and beyond 'punishments'.

but are they any less of an adult if they are in college?

That's true: I think 17 is too old to be grounded anyway. A person is old enough to live independently and/or get married at that age so should be considered an adult really.

I was at university at 17 as were most of my peers (not UK). I still lived at home for the first year and I remember my parents did have trouble "letting go". Bit of a row about going to my first party and staying overnight in the city with friends - but once I'd done it once they seemed ok about it and I stayed out regularly after after that.

Don't know if I would have turned up at home drunk though - some things are best done out of sight/hearing of parents

I think grounding is a bit pointless at that age,by then its more to do with living by the house rules and if you don't like it,make plans to get into own accommodation.
Sorry if harsh but you can't have it all ways.

I have grounded my 17 year old son for the weekend successfully. ie he accepted it and took his punishment. But friends of mine remarked that they hadn't been able to do that since their DCs were about 14 as they just ignored them and walked out. Depends on the child. The reason for grounding was behaviour on the previous weekend (too much of everything) resulted in him refusing to go to school on the monday. I can't drag him out of bed, so I said if you don't go then you're grounded next weekend,so be it.

I don't think I'd ground my dd when she's 17. I would, however, expect an awful lot of suckin up and a big long list of jobs to be done, so that may well result in self grounding to get it all done!

I don't ground either of mine, they are both old enough to have left school DD is at work and pays me rent so grounding her would seem a bit odd. DS still relies on me for lifts to places as he hasn't yet passed his test so I suppose I could withdraw lifts etc but he doesn't really give me any cause to need to punish him he even turned down a party the other week because it had been advertised on FaceBook and he didn't want to be somewhere trouble may kick off.

I can't imagine grounding would do any good. If they wanted to live in a way that didn't suit our home then they'd be encouraged to strike out on their own.

How would you do it though? I'd have just left the house, I'd have got out somehow

Respect I guess.

I have 2 DDs still at home aged 17 and 19. We wouldn't ground either of them but do expect them to respect house rules. Which is basically leting us know when they are coming home. The 17 year old has to let us know if she is planning to sleepover at a friends before she actually goes out. The 19 year old can make that decision when she is out with friend but she is supposed to text us sometime during the evening to let us know her plans. By the way the house rules also apply to us we let them know where we are going and when we will be home.

I think 16/ still in school is the limit.

I can remember when i had just started college and i had done something quite trival (think i may have been smoking) my mum exploded and shouted at me "your grounded" I can remember thinking oh no , but then calmly said back "you cant do that anymore i'm too old now"!

It was a defining moment of my teenage years!

I did have and still have alot of respect and admiration for my mum the worst punishment for me was always her disapointment!

My 16 year old is currently curfewed.. he has to be in at 8.30pm...
He was brought home by the police 3 weeks ago for fighting (the other person attacked him but IMO he still can't go retaliating) and he is curfewed until the end of his GCSE exams .
My rational is that he needs to be kept safe from hanging about the local areas where trouble ALWAYS happens.. and we laid it on VERY thick (with the police's help) that next time it will be an arrest, a criminal record and a night in the cells...

He has obeyed the curfew without protest.

It did occur to me that if he didn't come in, there is nothing I could do about it, however he does respect our reasons and a tiny bit of me suspects he is relieved to have an excuse not to be out there...

After GCSEs he's free! (I was also hoping he might actually revise during his curfew but no sign so far!!)

i ground my 16 yos

in fact my 16 yo ds was grounded for a week last week for not attending a family function - he just kinda fucked off.

then dd is grounded this week becuase she came home 2 hours late.

i did tell my 18 yo son that he wasn't allowd a social life til he got a job - thats the same as grounding.