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Teenagers

Parenting teenagers has its ups and downs. Get advice from Mumsnetters here.

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Teenage mum seeking friends

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staceym11 · 21/04/2005 17:38

Hi im Stacey, im 18 and have a 6 month old daughter, im finding it really hard to keep in touch with my old friends after having my daughter and although i do have a partner he works full time and i feel very lonely at home every day. i do go out to mother toddler groups with my daughter but most of the mums are older and i find it really hard to interact with them outside the group. does anyone understand this feeling?????

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Nemo1977 · 21/04/2005 17:48

hi stacey I am no longer a teenager but can completely understand what you are saying. I am 27 and have an 18mth old son and am currently 6 wks pregnant. My husband works all day from 8-8 and it is hard. When I go to tots groups most of the mums seem to know each other so I always feel out of the loop.
Welcome to the board and I hope you find what you are looking for

stitch · 21/04/2005 17:51

hi stacey, im definitly not a teenager anymore, but do understand how you feel. i was 24 when i had my first, and all the other moms were either teenagers, or thirty somethings. was vry lonely... things do get easier as the babies grow older, but you do need to find things todo for yourself,and not just baby stuff. can your mombabysit at all?

fostermum · 21/04/2005 19:17

hi stacey my daughter is your age and got a baby who is 8 months old,and she finds it much the same if you wanna email me [email protected] with your e mail adrress i will get her to email you she on here to as charleepeters

Hermione1 · 21/04/2005 19:21

Hi stacey, sadly am no longer a teenager but still feel like one. Can honestly say i understand that it can be lonely bringing up a baby and your partner always at work, mumnet is brilliant and makes you feel like your not alone.

darlingbud · 21/04/2005 19:40

welcome stacey I'm not a teenager either but just wanted to say that you will find loads of support on here.

marne · 21/04/2005 20:32

hi stacey, im 23 and i have a 14 month old dd, i dont get out much, also find it hard to get on with other mothers as most are older than me, i find it hard to interact with other mums.understand how you feel, it can get very lonely having no one to talk to. I work part time, this realy helps me as i get a break from my dd and i get to talk to other people. Mumsnet is a great place to meet people,I hope you find some good freinds on here.
You could always start a thread to look for mums living in your area so you can meet up with them.

Good luck!

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staceym11 · 23/04/2005 22:55

Thanks for the support everyone, its really nice to know that its not only me that feels this way. my partner has gone out for the evening and i feel exhausted, at only 6 months she wont go to bed unless he gives her a goodnight kiss, which is great for me, she finally asleep now and as bed time is 9 o clock it seems to have taken me forever!
oh well, anyway, what does everyone acctually do when they get a break from their kids coz i just feel like a spare part?!

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stitch · 23/04/2005 23:55

why, we mumsnet of course!

tiggerintum · 24/04/2005 00:12

Hi Stacey, I am 19 and a mum-to-be I am 27 weeks pg baby due in July. where are you from?

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staceym11 · 25/04/2005 11:07

Im from croydon, how about you tiggerintum?

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YoungButAble · 15/05/2005 12:36

Hi stacey, Im 19 and have a 9 month old son. I know what you mean about being lonely, my friends have all gone off to uni, like I should have. Luckily I have my sister who is 21 with a 2yr old and my job but its not the same as your friends is it? I have my partner but being young parents and the feelings that come with it is making it hard for us.
Ps We have an 8 o clock bedtime here and once Ive tidied up and got things ready for the next day Im in bed myself!lol. Hes a good baby though, thank god!

sparklymieow · 15/05/2005 12:53

HI, I'm not a teenager anymore either, 26 now but I was 18 when I had my first baby. It is tiring though.

tammybear · 15/05/2005 12:58

hi stacey, im 20, i had dd when i was 18. in your spare time, when you have a break from dd, you should try to do something you want to do, like pick up a hobby. ive just started learning how to play the guitar and Im gonna start going dance lessons as well. Keeps me busy when Im bored when dd has gone to bed. Or of course like stitch said theres mumsnet to lurk on

mariahismyworld · 25/05/2005 02:13

hi i am 16 and have a 2 month old baby and i don't know who the father is.its only 2 guys so its easyer to find out but it is very stressing and raising a baby is very hard. i am never out with friends anymore and i don't talk to barely anyone.i am very unhappy because i have no friends and the guy i was with that may be the daddy is an a**.but just want to make some new friends that were in my postion and that is my position.

mariahismyworld · 25/05/2005 02:13

mumalone · 08/06/2005 10:41

Hi Stacey, i was 20 when i had dd1 and it wasnt long after i became a lone parent.Like you I felt so out of place at mothers & toddlers, so i went swimming with dd instead. Things can be hard with a 6 month old, its not because you are young yourself even older mums find it difficult sometimes !! You are definatly not alone

aaliyahsmum · 08/06/2005 11:07

hi i am not a teenager, but i know where u are coming from, i was 20 when i had ddshe is 4 now, i just wanted to say if you wanna chat email at [email protected] or add yourself to my msn with same addy

missycantstop · 10/06/2005 12:47

hi, im 19 have a son who is 2yrs and has cerebral palsy. i also have a little girl who is a year old and im 32 weeks pregnant. My partner is great but is at work all the time and all my so-called friends have stabbed me in the back. so i spend most of my time at home lonely with the kids.

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staceym11 · 20/06/2005 15:27

Hey sorry havnt replied for ages, but thanks for the support everyone. if you want to get in touch, mariah is my world my email is [email protected], iv pulled myself together a bit but it still nice to have people to talk to!!!!

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tweeni · 17/03/2006 18:52

hi im 17 and expecting my baby in july. the so called dad doesnt wanna know which i think will really get me down even though at the moment im trying to tell myself it will be ok or he might change his mind. if anyone wants to chat my email ad is [email protected]

scotchlass · 21/03/2006 11:56

Hi tweeni, hope you are feeling ok today. I am 25 now but was in your situation when I was 15. I eventually realised that I was actually better off without DS dad and was able to make a new life for myself. Have you got the support of your family? One last thing, don't let anyone make you feel like you won't be a good mother because you are young, as you will see on this site everyone finds it hard at times regardless of their age!!

maltesers · 30/03/2006 10:27

hi stacym11. I am an older mum but can sympathise cos when my last child was born i was 41 and all the new mums seemed so young.. Tried to get some to come round and make friends wi but think it put them off that i had two older kids of 11 and 13. Its ok now though little one is 5 and at school and i work part time. Get to lots of baby groups and any groups to meet new people. as time goes on you will get to know more mums through your child. Good luck.

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