19 year old brother -- Gay? Should I bring it up?

[mulranno]

I have had fleeting thoughts that my 19 year old brother might be gay. He is in my care now after the recent death of our mother.

Are there any signs? Should I talk about it?

I am just worried that he might be struggling with this as the same time as grieving and I want to be able to support him if he needs me. Although I want to respect his privacy also.

He's over 18 - why is he "in your care"?

Maybe you can make pro-gay/sympathetic comments if any gay stories arise in the press or whatever, to let him know you're fine with it, but otherwise I'd not raise the subject - if he wants to talk about it with you, he will.

I am sorry for the loss of your mother. You must be grieving too.

I would prob step back and let him work things out for himself without asking him tbh. But at the same time make him aware that you have no problems with anyone being gay - general conversations about celebs etc or any friends you have.

I think the best approach here is to leave him to it .....grieve together for your mum but unless he asks you for support his relationships are his business.

Definitely leave it for now. He'll be pre-occuped about your Mum at the moment I should think.
Once things have calmed down, if the opportunity arises then no harm in casually saying something that could open up a conversation. If he doesnt take you up on the chat though, I wouldnt persist.