Had a bit of a rude awakening. Great open relationship with dd (shortly to be 16), she knows I think she is too young for a sexual relationship, but has been with her 16 yo bf for about 6 months, so said she must talk to me if things moved on so that we could get her protected.
Bf's mum spoke to me last week, to say that they are sleeping together. Disappointed that she hasn't waited (apart from the legalities, why does 16 seem so much better than 15?), and gutted that she didn't talk to me.
Had very sensible conversation with her - although I had to force her to be honest with me. She was embarrassed, felt that she had let us down and that we would hate her . Said that we would have felt much happier had she been mature enough to speak to us, but we are where we are, and we will always love her very much. DH was brilliant - told her that he was disappointed, didn't condone what they were doing (we do like bf very much) but the important thing is that he is not ready to be a grandad!
They are using condoms. My immediate thought was that she should go on the pill, but thinking further about it, she is starting to work seriously on her GCSE revision, and I'm concerned that any hormonal changes may not be good for her.
Is this likely to be a problem? (I realise that pregnancy would throw an even bigger spanner into the works!) Or are there other contraceptive methods that may be better suited to a girl of her age?
Any advice gratefully received! (Name changer btw)