My daughter has been accussed of bullying at school and is very close to being excluded. This is the story she has told me which seems to fit with my own experiences of the situation and witnesses at school.
Last year, my daughter (14) was on her way to a karate class on food, alone. As she walked past fellow class mates house, he came out and asked where she was going. She told him "Karate" and he laughed at her but asked her what days she goes on. She told him.
The next karate day, she walked past his house and he was in the front garden waiting with a gym bag. He was smiling at her and she asked what he was doing, he said "joining karate. Can I walk with you?" and she said "yes".
So, they began walking to karate, 3 times a week together.
But then we started getting late night phone calls from this boy. He would phone up from 9pm to 11pm just to ask "what you upto?" etc. I told her off for taking calls so late so she told him not to call unless he had a good reason. The calls continued only he would make up excuses. One was "I'm doing a quiz and the prize is something you'd love so I'm doing it to get you the prize, but I need to know this answer ... do you know it?" etc. This was gone 11pm.
She got a paper round which unfortunately involved going past his house. He began following her around the paper round and eventually got her sacked because he took the papers from her saying he would "help" and just shoved them through any door to get it finished. (admittidly, this is partly her fault for allowing him to).
Then he invited her to shows, she declined. He invited her to go out with him and his family, she declined.
At christmas he sent 10 christmas cards through the door saying he couldn't decide which one to give her so he gave her them all.
She stopped going to karate as he began turning everyone there against her and then on the sly, would say very sexual things to her where nobody could hear.
She eventually told him to leave her alone and said she no longer wanted to be friends. The next day, a Playstation 2 was wrapped in a gym bag and was hanging on our front door. It was a present from him to apologise.
I made her take it back.
Now, she made the mistake of telling everyone at school what was going on which she shouldn't have done but pls remember she is only 14 herself. Everyone began taking the piss out of the lad and calling him a stalker and a wierdo. He had very few friends to begin with.
Then one night, he was beaten up by a group of boys from the school. His parents are blaming DD fully and are threatning to involve the police. School have taken their side.
Not sure how to handle this anymore as it has blown way out of control.
Please help.