Ds1 is 12, coming up 13, but I feel this question should be asked of people who know teenagers, rather than asking parents of younger children.
Last Christmas (and the Christmas before that too) ds1 did not want to write any Christmas cards to his classmates. Fine. He is a typical boy, ie not keen on writing. He is very shy but he has three very strong friendships with 3 boys, 2 of whom he met at primary school, and, although he is called a geek and is a very bright boy, he seems to be accepted by enough peers for me to not be worrying about his social skills.
But then just now, I found he had cleared his bag out before going to school and on the floor were a mass of Christmas cards given to him by his classmates this Christmas. He has just about opened the envelopes, but none of the cards have been taken out, they are all bent and dirty, and I had no idea he had received so many (in fact, I had no idea he had received any at all).
Just reassure me: it is normal for a 12 year old boy to be this dismissive of gestures of friendship isnt it? I noticed a lot of the cards were from girls which I know would have embarrassed him a lot. One girl addresses him by a diminutive of his name normally only used by me, and another wrote "You rock!" on the card. It is lovely to see that he is well regarded, but I find something strangely disturbing to have come across these cards, discarded and disregarded, a month after Christmas.
I am overthinking this, aren't I?