Don't you just love it when they grow up and so do their mates

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when ds was at secondry a nasty piece of work "bullied" him. took great delight in calling dd(sn) a spaz just to get at ds.
by the end of secondry ds was standing his ground, but he still found it hard as this $$$$ had big mates.
well now they are both at 6th form.
yesterday ds spied the &&&& talking to J, now J went to primary with ds. spent loads of time here and I got ob very well with his mum.
ds told J about &&& calling dd a spaz......
well you can guess the rest.

just telling you this as I have posted loads about ds and his troubles. It is so nice that at last not only can ds deal with this stuff but his mates know right from wrong.
so I think the days of ds being a "victim" are well and truly over

That's really good to hear!

I got bullied all through secondary school, due to lots of things, partly my squint (how sad, but it did lead me to have corrective surgery on it), and partly for just being a bit off the wall and different.

Anway, I had a group of mates, who sometimes I got on with, sometimes I didn't, but still I kept seeing them through college etc. Then it got too much, arguing lots etc so I stopped seeing them for about 7 months.

Now, I go out with them loads, we don't argue, and people who got on my nerves are now close friends

So, 2 shoes, did J whack the bully one, or was it more a verbal dressing down?

oh yes and hard

hmmmm...although that feels good to you know i do wonder whether hitting someone for namecalling was a 'grown-up' mature response...?

when they take the piss out of a disabled person............yes.
the grown up part is that they know that it is wrong to do it.

ddf, don't rain on the parade .........

yeah please don't
I am just so glad ds is no longer having to put up with this crap.

I'm truly glad that your ds is not having to put up with vrap anymore...I would have hoped that the boy who called him those names would have had chance to grow out of that behaviour too....?
But sorry - hitting someone is not the answer...what happens if he goes off and gets a bigger mate to retaliate ??? where will it end?

just my opinion

I'm not sure why J hit &&&

Who is J???

Why didn't your ds whack this other kid years ago?

J was ds's bestmate in primary, but they lost touch when they went to different secondry schools.
ds couldn't as &&&&&& had some big mates. and after years of being bullied ds became a "victim" until he grew in inches and made some good mates.