Want to downsize but..........................not enough room

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Dp and I are desperate to move house. We have a huge mortgage, which means we have to work ft to feed it. Our quality of life is crap, and I have been treated for depression/anxiety as there is just too much to do, and we need to reduce our finacial commitments so one of us can go part time.

We have dss 19, ds 15 and dd 2. We want to move to a 3 bed house as this is the only way we can reduce mortgage enough to make a difference. We could then add an extra room, when moved in to fit them all in. This is tyhe only way of doing it which we can afford

So do dss and ds share a room? They both like space and privacy. Dss's gf stays a lot.....

Don't know what to do...but cannot continue living like this, we have to reduce our outgoings as current life is making me ill, and dp stressed....

WWYD?

some people are such meanies about older teenagers, how many 19 year olds can afford to live independently? it's horrible to shove one child out because the space is needed for a younger model!

I like larry5's suggestion

Have you actually seen a three bedroom house that you like? If not, just keep an open mind when you are looking around. As larry has said you may see one with two reception rooms, one of which could be used as another bedroom.

My friends had to move house from a three bed to a two bed with a teenage dd and teenage ds. My friends have the dining room as their bedroom - the kitchen is a decent size, so they have a table in there.

I completely agree with mysterymoniker. Why is a nineteen year old in the first year of university expected to move out? Students are already saddled with huge debts for their education if their parents cannot or will not help them out. To add the cost of living seems a bit harsh if it's not necessary.