MSN!

[mumto3boys]

My son isn't a teenager yet but I wasn't too sure where else to put this.

He's almost 12 and started secondary school in September. He has recently discovered MSN.

Last week I worked out how to save the history on it and today I had a quick look. It is completely full of swearing. There is also a conversation with his girlfriend where she is telling him what code to type if a parent walks in and vice versa to make sure the other one doesn't type something they don't want a parent to see.

When he started using MSN I told him that at any time I could check back on his conversations. Although I want him to have some privacy and accept he is growing up, I also need to know if he is being reponsible using these things.

There was also a conversation on them getting away with something at school, which the teacher questioned them about.

Any advice on how to deal with this?

Omg nearly exact same boat as you Snowy91 accept am 15... Do you have a kid too??

I totally agree mdrooney- safety must come before privacy especially with children of just 12.

My dd has been bullied through msn and we always have the history on (actually all our computers are networked so we can access this from out computer). It was very useful to print out and keep the evidence which we used to show the school what had been happening.

We also have a time limit (1 hour a day)set up on dds MSN and we can also block it as a punishment for bad behaviour( very effective as she loves her MSN!)

Until such time as my children are adults, I am responsible for them.

I know more about the world than they do, and it is my job and also my instinct to keep them safe, and let them go a bit at a time as and when they have the life skills to cope. That line is very blurred, but again, that is what one learns from experience.

It is completely my busines what my twelve year old is doing.....that is the law.

You have to be signed in to change any of the settings on MSN. What if you don't know your DC's password?

boden groupie = read your post to dp as i am with you on the swearing etc

my dcs are not allowed on interne at home at all

the picures on bebo alone are enough to turn your stomach

so sorry about your niece

no i'm not a mum I was looking for something on the internet and found this post....

I personally have been severly bullied at school and no i didn't tell anyone and yes i was told the exact words 'o btw i hate you' over msn......and yes that hurt.....i stuggled through it on my own out of fear....

whatever happened to communication - talk to you dc not spy on them......sometimes they may not relise that you care....i know this w,e i've only just relised that my mum cares about me the way she does......

robbiesbiggestfan We can change the time allowances on MSN/internet through our cyberpatrol software. No need to know the password.

Ok, thanks smartiejakeonachristmascake