Gay son

[10krunner]

My 16yo DS1 annnounced to me last night that he's gay and has a boyfriend.

I think it is lovely he told you at a relatively young age. If you are pleased let him know that, and I would ask to meet his boyfriend, as with all teenage relationships it's better to know who your child is going out with, and try and be on good terms.

don't worry to much about being in shock, some of that is because you are aware that he is sexually actively (assuming he is as he has a boyfriend) which gay or straight is always a bit of a shocker for parents.

By all means talk to him but not too much, remember he is a teenager and if you probe to much they back away!

They don't have a sexual relationship yet and I don't see me meeting him anytime soon as his mum isn't letting him out. They seem to chat on MSN alot and text.

10KRunner - I have two gay sons. They both came out to me at the same time and were so formal about it all. They both have boyfriends / go out in Soho etc. Of course I worry and of course life will be that bit more challenging for them but I am so proud of them and the confidence with which they live their lives.

10krunner - it's lovely that he can talk to you ,I sympathise about you worrying though .
Mumarch - interesting post .My DS told me he was bisexual a few weeks ago ...but he's not in any relationship ( never has been ) and he's basing his assumption on fact that has been drawn to individuals of both sexes.
Like you I think they have a lot of learning and experimentation to do in their teens but I think they feel under pressure to categorise themselves .
I heard on radio other day someone saying that they thought sexuality wasn't a set in stone thing ,that for them it was something that was in flux .
Which I thought was interesting .

10krunner

Good for you that your DS can talk to you and include you in what is going on in his life. It's a credit to your relationship - many people don't come out to their parents until they are much, much older.

I guess it's a time to be loving and sensible and kind and tell your DS that nothing changes - how much you love him, will always support him and how proud you are of him and that all of this will always be the case. I'd also praise him for being close and honest with you. I'm sure he knows all of this stuff but I always think there's no harm in saying it.

I do feel dismayed, though, that the BFs Mum will not let him out of the house to see your son though. Poor kid. I wonder what's going on in that house?

This is a two year old thread folks....

Oops! Didn't spot that!

Hope it all panned out ok for those two boys.

Junk - I don't care that this is an old thread, how dare you use such foul and loaded language.

Your son is very lucky to have a supportive Mum.
I have been looking on Mumsnet for advice as I feel my 16yr old SS is confused about his sexuality.

I can't talk to my husband about it as he just won't believe. Over the past few months he has become obsessed with saying people are gay, asking if anyone we know or are related to are gay etc, several people have also commented on this behaviour & it is alienating him as people find it offensive. His negative comments on the subject are preventing me from 'outing' friends / family members who are entitled to their privacy, I do not want their relationship with him being affected but I am also concerned that he may be asking because he wants someone to talk to.

I don't know how to handle this one, we don't have the best relationship - his relationship with his biological mother broke down 5 yrs ago & he takes most of his anger & frustration out on me & my other 2 kids & pushes me away if I make any attempt to help him in any way.
I know I need to sit down & talk to him about this but any advice would be welcome as I really don't want to mess this up.
Thanks!

Daisy- there. Is actually a section for parents of LGBT children... maybe start a thread on there? I'm sure you'll find plenty of support.