To explain.
DS1 is 15. has a phone which we bought and on which we pay a monthly tariff so that he can travel to rugby matches etc and arrange pick up. Plus obviously for talking to friends and girlfriend.
He is a fab boy BUT we have reall REAL trouble with him not keeping us informed of where he is. He went on tour to Holland in hols and it was four days before we heard from him. He also rarely answers when we call him but phone to ear when it rings at home is Olympic standard time.
To be clear I am not worried that he is doing anything wrong - this is just about keeping us informed.
Last straw was Saturday. He had gone to meet friends to play sqaush. Expected home by 12. By two o'clock I was very worried - especially as we knew he was supposed to be meeting gf at 1.30.
In the end DH goes to find him. He is still playing squash. Court was not free so they stayed in coffee shop for two hours and not once did he think to call us.
I was furious - this was real last straw thing. He just does not seem to get that we just want a one line text telling us all is fine - beyond that he is very free agent.
When he got home I said that as we were paying for the phone and the only people he didn't ring was us then he could give me the phone until I was prepared to let him have it back. He was very apologetic but i told him punishment stood.
He then went out to meet girlfriend. We agreed he would be home at 6.30 ( all having supper togetherfor my birthday). He got home at 7.00. So I took his lap top away as well.
My question is. How long would you last before giving them back.
I want to make sure he gets the point ( ie how frustrating total lack of communication is) but i don't want to just be mean.
Dh and i think a week. Does that seem fair.
Sorry this is so long but didn't want issue muddied with people think I am concerned about what he is up to ( I am not) or that I am over reacting to once off error - this is happening all thetime. He is just so dippy.
Thank for reading this far