What job/s do you expect your teenager to do in the house?

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Do they moan?

Do they do them?

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Strange there should be a post about this today as I have had a argument discussion with my 12 year old dd today about this very thing.

She has to vac and dust her own room every 2 weeks and keep it slightly tidier than a pigsty relatively tidy. I have a list of jobs she can do for a little extra pocket money but do expect some to be just done, such as folding the washing and doing a bit of tidying.

She got all stuffy with me saying she should be paid for these so I ended up screaming like a banshee suggesting that if she wanted extra treats in half term such as going to the flicks or out to lunch she should do these things gratis.

Ended up with us going out shopping and me not buying her stuff she wanted as she wouldn't do jobs for free and she had to use the pocket money she had earned to pay for them (Think she got the message!)

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Strange there should be a post about this today as I have had a argument discussion with my 12 year old dd today about this very thing.

SHe has to vac and dust her own room every 2 weeks and keep it slightly tidier than a pigsty relatively tidy. I have a list of jobs she can do for a little extra pocket money but do expect some to be just done, such as folding the washing and doing a bit of tidying.

SHe got all stuffy with me saying she should be paid for these so I ended up screaming like a banshee suggesting that if she wanted extra treats in half term such as going to the flicks or out to lunch she should do these things gratis.

Ended up with us going out shopping and me not buying her stuff she wanted as she wouldn't do jobs for free and she had to use the pocket money she had earned to pay for them (Think she got the message!)

yes they moan

mine don't do them automatically

clear and wipe the dining room talbe - daily filled with junk

to empty and re stack the dishwasher

the other

walk the dog

hoover front room dining room

its not much.

Err... not a lot ...16 year old ds is a lazy sod ..probably my fault ..but in my defence have 2 grown up dds who never did fuck all at home but now have their own much tidier houses then mine

Mine don't moan (now), but nor do they do jobs voluntarily.

Our jobs are their own laundry, empty/refill dishwasher, put out rubbish, tidy up and hoover, cut the grass, de-dog poo, walk the dog, run errands, babysit.

oh, they clean the windows too. And set table and clear the dishes.

DSSs are supposed to keep their shower room tidy, make their beds/open their shutters, hang up/put away their clothes, empty their bin.

I also ask them to run errands ie go to dry cleaner's, to bakery, occasionally to supermarket for odd items.

Also to put out rubbish and take the glass to recycling.

Generally I find the DSSs much more willing and better at errands than chores.

shopping, vacuuming, loading and unloading dishwasher, feeding chickens and cooking. And yes, they bitch and moan.

Laying and clearing the table at mealtimes, and keeping the loos stocked with loo -roll. He isn't very good at either, but improves when the money isn't forthcoming!

all my children do jobs, and yes they moan like hell

all have to help with laying the table and then clearing it after we have eaten.

unloading the dishwasher if they are about and I am cooking and I have not yet done it.

help with lunch boxes

tidying the lounge.....rarely gets done properly tho

they all are in charge of taking their clothes upstairs when I have ironed them, and putting their undies away (I put the boys clothes away....they break hangers otherwise). the girls are supposed to put clothes away.......rarely happens, they seem to live off their 'piles'. well, except DD3 but she is 9 and so far better than the two older girls at doing as she is told to (well, at the moment).

oh, and cleaning the rabbits out.

then, if I don;t get to catch up on housework during the week, I do it on the weekend.........I write out a list of jobs and they all have to come and tick one/do one. at least one........works quite well.

Mine fill and empty dishwasher, dust and hoover their rooms and the other rooms if asked, do abit of ironing, sort and put away clean clothes, make cups of tea and generally are expected to do whatever is asked of them.

They moan; it's in their job description.

I had decided to stop asking them my 2DS to do anythings as they would moan,eye roll etc and I ended up shouting like a bashee so for my own sanity I stopped asking them, and it has now ended up with them asking me if I need any thing doing, or DS1 has done things with out asking like loaded dish washer and turned it on and cleaned his bedroom and made a better job than me , DS2 does offer to make a cup of tea.

Oh good! It seems like I have a reasonable expectation of her and her chores.
Basically empty dishwasher, occasional laying of the table and get her to iron her own school shirts. Oh and every now and then to make a cup of tea.

DS hauls baskets of logs, buckets of coal in every day in winter (ie 50 weeks in the year).

Tidies own room once in a Preston guild.

Takes own plate into kitchen.

Will do odd things like run letters down to the postbox, help tidy up if he can see I'm struggling.

DD 12 - loves cooking so does dinner a couple of times a week, dusts once a week.

DD 15 - cleans bathroom

They both do their own lunches, breakfasts, bedrooms (infrequently but I try to shut my eyes/nose) and take it in turns to do dishwasher.

I work full-time so they have to pitch in when I'm trying to blitz the house (not as often as I should).

Don't get paid for anything, their reward is having a happy, non-shouting mother

When i was a teenager (not that long ago )

i would...

walk my dog 2 or 3 times a day (had toget u at 5.30am as my school bus went at 7am)
Also fed her, and took her to vets etc

keep my own bedroom clean and tidyish (No one else ever tidied it for me, but when it got very messy (which it did) i woukd be told it needed to be tidyed (true))

Cook dinner 2 or 3 weekdays a week

clean the bathrooms weekly

give the whole downstairs & hall stairs landing and bathroom a good hoover / dust at least weekly, and my dads bedromm sometimes

load / unload the dishwasher if it needed doing and i happened to be there

would do a load of laundry if basket was full but my dad did it sometimes too)... and ironed all of my own clothes

I didnt have to do these tasks as such but i did do them, and do them always and not moan about it... did it because I wanted to rather than had to.... (If i had to do it i would probably have refused, or made a big deal out of it, but doing it cause i want to meant i actuakky did it)

also my mum had left and i was living at home with my dad and my dad worked a lot so i had to do it, though as i said was never told i had to!

as soon as id passed my driving test i did the weekly supermarket shop too (literally the 1st place i ever drove myself to was the supermarket!)

ours-
help the non cooking parent clear up after dinner (empty, re-load dishwasher, hand wash other items, wipe surfaces etc)
lay table (clearing it of the crap first)
take out milk bottles/bring milk in
put away weekly shop
do own ironning
take turns to let out/put away hens

then, as individuals, put own dirt clothes in wash
put away own clean clothes (never done!)

occassionaly- cook a meal, go to corner shop

looks like quite a lot when you write it all down- but really, still leaves a lot for us!
however, they don't moan too much about it, though we do have a constant round of reminders and quibbles about whose turn it is to do what.

I expected my 17yr old DS to help around the house. Various things, although not all on the same day.
Dry pots and put away
Empty bins
Hoover frontroom
Keep his room tidy
Change his own bed
Bring his own washing to the basket to be washed
Take his own plates/cups into kitchen after dinner and scrape leftovers into bin from the plate
Wipe his own mess up after him
Sometimes, bring the washing in

I worked f/t, and yes, he complained and refused alot of the time. I persevered, explaining how we should all contribute to the cleaning because we all made the mess.
He still complained...to my mother especially....and one night while I was out....he spoke to my mother on the phone and asked her if he could stay with her for a while, she agreed and without my permission or knowledge, she drove to my house whilst I was out, and picked my son and most of his belongings up and took him home with her. I was livid, at him for leaving (this time over an argument about him taking his plate out into the kitchen) and told my mother to return him immediately. She refused. He returned alone 4 days later to pick up the remainder of his belongings, and told me he had officially moved out.
I asked my mother to return him home, because this was not the way to teach him any respect for me, or my rules, but she just screamed down the phone, and refused to return him.
I have not spoken to my mother since then, although I have now had a gorgeous DD, who is 12 weeks old, and whom my mother has never seen. (She never contacted me at all during my pregnancy either.)
Now DS lives with her, which I am so unhappy about, and does absolutely nothing. He is waited on hand and foot, and does as he pleases.

Well when DSD was 12-13 she did quite a few things in return for pocket money - dishes, some tidying, cleaning, taking out bins etc. Now she's 16 she actually does sweet bloody FA around the house and her pocket money has been increased to £20 a week for dance lessons.

Come to think of it how did that happen. I really am a complete and utter mug aren't I.

DS1 (15) is expected to set/clear tables with his younger siblings and load/unload dishwasher with siblings. He has to keep his room tidy including vacuuming and strip his bed when he wants clean sheets (he's extremely clean for a teenage boy!). He will happily vacuum the whole house for me once a week and (rather grumpily) help his dad in the garden for an hour or so every couple of weeks. All three kids put the recycling out every two weeks.

I won't pay for housework as I believe in "5 of us live here, 5 of us help out" but he earns money babysitting his siblings.