Hi everyone, I know it's quiet today but I could do with some advice from adopted mumsnetters. It's not for me but for a friend who is at her wits end. She adopted her son, now 13, when he was a couple of months old. He's always known about this, very open about the situation etc. Now he's a teenager he's making his family's life hell, usually tantrums, etc but she fears he is really going off the rails at the moment and so do I TBH.
Anyway, the thing that is constantly thrown back in her (and her dh's) face is the "you're not my real mum/dad" line and the latest request is that he wants to meet his birth mother. She would agree to this if she believed it would help him to come to terms with it. What do you think? and is it possible to meet your birth mother at this age? or do you have to wait until you're an adult?
I've agreed to have a word with him about this whole situation. They're a really lovely family and I'd like to be able to help them, but know nothing about adoption.
TIA