To want to cancel dd1 birthday sleepover

[mdrooney]

Dd1 is going to be 13 on Monday and I had said that she could have a sleep over on saturday night, after some negotating I settled on six friends, Anyway she really kicked off last night saying please please can she have 8 as it would be diffucult to choose 6 as their seems to be a group of 8 who hang out togther, this went on for the whole evening with tears and shouting, and you just dont understand,she has never been this bad it was quite upsetting, but I stuck my ground as I think 6 is enough and I only live in a 2 bed flat. this morning wasnt much better and she was very tearful, saying you just dont understand and she metioned one girl who isnt one of the six and that she wouldnt be my dds friend anymore because she hadnt invited her and persude the others not to come, my dd has metioned this girl before and that she wasnt keen on her ans that she causes trouble, well I dont want her for the sleepover if she is like that anyway, dd1 has taken the invites into school but I am dreading going home tonight if she kicks off again as I cant face anthor night of tears, it was meant to be a nice fun thing I was doing for her and its already turning into a nightmare.

Let her have the 8 because if my previous experience is anything to go by you will be saying NEVER AGAIN sunday morning regardless of numbers.

The thing is I said 4 origanally and then it was upped to 6, and to me she just seems ungratful she just seems to expect that I will give in if she makes such a fuss I just think 8 would be too many plus dd1 in my flat, dd2 who is 12 in 2 weeks is going to her friends for the night hopfully, so their wont be any sibling fighting, I am just getting stressed, everything seems to be such a drama at the moment with both dds its wearing me out.

Tell her 8 and thats it you won't discuss it further.Someone on here advised me to pick my arguments with ds(14) and they were right.Not worth the hassle with teenagers sometimes.It will be huge to her not to have the extra 2 and not worth the grief to argue!

pick your fights!!

8 sounds ok to me, just chill a little bit, expect a bit of a mess and use your flexibilty later over something more important.

I'd put the gin on ice now if I were you.

And have you bought your earplugs yet?

ok she has now done the extra two invites so now I have a possible 8 girls plus dd on Saturday night and one happy daughter god help me , but am going to relax and look forward to a nice drink on the Sunday afer they have all gone.
The only problem is now dd2 who is nearly 12 and had agreed to stay at her friends for the night now wants to stay for the sleepover but she can sometimes take over as she is alot more outgoing then dd1 and I know that if there is going to be a row it will be between dds , so have bribed her to stay at her friends, am I being unfair dd1 would prefer it if she stayed at friends, we will celebrate on Monday as a family for dd1 13th on the day, its dd2 Birthday in two weeks time so it will be her time then not sure what she wants yet though. God help me lol

You've done the right thing on both counts.

How did your sleepover go? We have one coming in December, 2 days before Christmas, as it's her birthday just before, how's that for timing? Mutts right, no difference if it's 4 or 6 or 8, still have a huge headache in the morning cos they just don't sleep do they? Shouldn't call them sleepovers at all, it's a mis-representation and it's bloody hard work.

The sleepover went good only 6 could make it in the end so all that stress for nothing, it was very noisey lots of laughter and squeles but we didnt have any major fallouts with all those girls, but I didnt sleep at all it went quite about 4am after a couple of stern words from me, and then one mum phoned at 730am because her dd had to be picked up at 8am, and they all left by 12pm on Sunday, Sunday was a complete waste as were knacked, and Im still finding popcorn in strange places, but dd really enjoyed it and was a happy bunny for a least of a couple of days, normale teen returned this morning though.

What I did find was listening to the girls, (couldnt help but overhere) was a bit enlightning, boys and more boys seemed to be the genral topic of conversation and what teachers were fit, and how dd was around her friends was a bit of awakening some of it was a bit scary........... but genrally all really nice girls.
Good luck mumof2fabkids having it to days before xmas your brave.
dd2 is 12 in two weeks but she wants to go to the cinima and for pizza for hers as she wants a mixture of boys and girls.