My dd's had first week back at school and come home crying, she wants a best friend - bit long

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Poor dd1 has started year 8. Had a tough time in year 7 with groups and cliques, but got through.

Her best friend (her cat) died 2 weeks ago in the holidays. We were all crying as it was so poorly and did not come back from the vets. She has come home so sad and says her only best friend is dead and she has no best friends at school. she got wet walking home, ALL the people in her class were going home with other people and she walked on her own. Even her umbrella broke. She has only just turned 12.

A girl at school got a new cat and was showing pics of it to everyone. Dd said her cat had died. She nicknamed it Fatty (it was large and cuddly), and someone said "Oh just get another one and feed it till its overweight", and walked off......(told to me through broken sobs).........It died because it got ill and was so thin it was hardly eating a teaspoon of food at the end.

Why is school so hard for my little treasure?

It' very warming to to hear some positive outcomes,

I don't think they should change FWIW Ewe to fit in, but yes teens do to feel part of a crowd, it's only natural. Hair extensions and makeup? She wears a little, sometimes and has hair straighteners (but never uses them for school). Of course it helps to be aware of the latest trends, like music, fashion and even Big Brother, but she doesn't want to change to 'fit in' with the "it" crowd, because she doesn't like them. She used to be in the same class with them at juniors, and they annoyed her then and much more now. She she's them taking the micky out of others in the class (lots of eye rolling and coughing when others answer) she is quiet clued up. She doesn't want to be part of that.

meant to say 'She sees them taking the micky'

I am having some alone time with her today so I will tell her the MN reasurance on here about things getting better in year 8 and 9. Off to by some mascara! Won't put all my trust in it though!

The girls are changing so much at this age. Finding out who they are, who they like, want to be etc.

If its any consolation I have had all this with DD now in year 10. She went from being a very popular pre teen/young child to opting out of the whole scene. She has had a steady group of 6/7 friends from being little. She is very much an individual and won't hang out with the cool crowd that some are in. She doesn't like them. She is not geeky either and finds it hard to fit in.

I wish she would make new friends and feel for her that she never formed a best friend.

She is still friends with them all but not close.

This seems to be so common. DD2 experienced the very same problems in year 7, the cliques are hard to ignore and to make matters worse her beloved grandma died at that time and the others gave her no sympathy whatsoever.

I echo what others have said though, as things really improved during year 8 and she is still happy in year 9. However she still doesn't have the best friend she yearns for.

Well dd1 joined the scouts last week, as one of her class mates goes and they were talking about it. She loved it, so fingers crossed. She was a bit put off my the uniform, but I think we'll cope. A better week all round than the week before.