Hating your kids friends

[Moshi]

My 14 year old DD has a best friend who has been her BF since primary school. Thing is I can't STAND him but they're always together. He's just so annoying. It isn't anything he does specifically and in all fairness he seems a decent kid, is never in trouble, takes his school work seriously but he's just drama, drama, drama.

He gets so excited over the most stupid things, he constantly jumping up and down and squealing. DD told him we were going to Florida and pulled the most annoying face and wouldn't shut up about it.

He has this mass of black curly hair and if he's sat eating at the table or something I can actually feel my blood beginning to boil just looking at his hair and his stupid skinny neck.

DH and DS can't stand him either but DD loves him. I feel a bit guilty sometimes because as I said he doesn't actually do ANYTHING to warrant a "god I hate that kid" but there is just something about him.

I havn't mentioned it to DD but she has picked up on the fact that I often give him dirty looks etc!

Do any of your kids have friends like this that you dislike for no particular reason?

Dont like the tone of this thread.
He sounds like a nice boy tbh.

I think you have to be the adult here and rise above this hatred towards him.

You can't like everyone you meet in life ,it's not like you have banned him from the house or stopped your DD spending time with him as long as you are not hostile or evil with im (which if you are letting him sleepover ,buying him sweets and the like I very much doubt it)

And he is obv not picking up on it or he wouldn't be running to hug you.

But she is being hostile- giving him dirty looks, laughing when he fell over ffs

Moshi you seem to be starting a lot of threads today - are you having a bad day?

Sounds like the poor boy can't win. If he was monosyllabic and sullen he would be written off as 'moody'.

He is lively and loud. There are worse things - he could be mean, into drugs, disrespectful, rude.....

I didn't start this one today, its quite old.

And I'm sorry but it was hilarious when he fell over, you should've seen it, I'm still laughing about it now!

Captainmummy - we shared the cooking with the other family while camping so of necessity we needed to serve aforesaid annoying child.

When you get ignored or at best a grunt as you ask him to pass a plate along to someone else for example, it gets intensely irritating.

At least with my own kids I have strategies to make them help out (like most teenagers they rarely volunteer) - but you can't withhold privileges from someone else's child or clip them around the head if their parents are present (that's tongue-in-cheek btw, but I sure as hell felt like doing it).

And who said he's gay? He's dramatic and loud, a compulsive fibber and only 12 years old..none of that to do with sexuality as far as I can tell.

moshi - he sounds like a nice kid,as said b/4 not like he's mugging old ladies or bullying or doing drugs,like so many others! if it was me, i'd encourage my dd to be friends with him,smile sweetly at him & perhaps wear earplugs if the noise gets too much!

mamhaf - i think it's the OP's dd's friend who is gay - not your 12YO friend? And not my 15 YO DS1, who also has curly black hair....
I dunno, I'm confused. Too many teenagers, and god knows, they are hard to like, sometimes.

OMG, he sounds exactly like a friend I had in secondary school. Even the hair. Especially the squealing. He annoyed me more often than not, too. He never really spoke to my parents much, and didn't come round much either, so my parents didn't really have an opinion.