My mum, having brought up 5 teens alone is just at a loss with him. He is polite, well mannored, doing well with a college course he is on, has had minor run ins with the police (mainly being in scuffles with other boys) as with a lot of kids in care he has had a bit of a troubled past involving his family etc.
My sister (who still lives with my mum and the foster son) found him smoking cannabis, watched him buying from the dealer, foster son says he has spent £240 on cannabis in the last fortnight (he has been doing odd jobs for my mum and other people to raise money for a car, supposedly, also had his birthday a couple of weeks ago so had money from that as well) mum has phoned his social worker to be met with a "oh well, it could be worse, you'll handle it" but she doesn't know how to handle it.
She can't phyiscally 'ground' him, she can't stop him going to college (which is where he has got involved in it), and I think is just feeling slightly out of her depth. I have only had a quick 2 minute conversation with her about it, so don't know all the details as yet. But I wanted to know what I can advise her to do when I speak to her properly tomorrow. Obviously she is going to have to push it harder with the social worker, but from what she has mentioned in the past about the SW, she isn't getting her hopes up for an answer.
Was hoping the greatness of MN might give us some ideas? TIA.