Teenage gilrs and clothes

[theexmrsfederer]

I just don't know how to stop getting so annoyed with my 12 yr old dd about this!

I buy her clothes, or we buy them together.. She says she likes them and will wear them. I don't buy frumpy or old-fashioned stuff btw, I know what is in fashion or not.

Then they sit in her wardrobe unworn...for months until she finally grows out of them. She sticks with the same old, scruffy stuff.

For example, she was going to the cinema today with friends, a rare treat for her. She chose her oldest, bobbliest top that she wore yesterday, complete with ketchup stains) and point-blank refused to wear any of the nice summer stuff I have bought her. We ended up having a shouting match. She left in tears (in the scruffy clothes) after I said I might as well just empty her wardrobe into the dustbin if SHE JUST WON'T WEAR THEM.

I just don't get it. Why say she likes the stuff then not wear it? I have threatened to not buy her anything ever again (of course, thats not practical!) but I am SICK of wasting my money.

Any help/insight?

sally, you brought a tear to my eye there.

Hedge, you talk sense.

TheHedge speaks lots of sense and it's all so true.

Make sure you keep any tags and receipts - if not worn within say 20 days take back for an exchange or refund - most stores give you 30 days 'exchange' but its not a legal right.

I buy my 3 oldest children 'basics'. In the agreement we have written down (- write everything down so it is still clear 5 months later when she insists you said you'd pay for (insert inappropriate item)) we buy...
winter
1 pair of jeans not destroyed, bright pink etc
3 plain t shirts
1 jumper/cardigan which will go with t-shirts
1 pair of boots/shoes
1 coat
1 hat/scarf/gloves
1 pair of trousers/skirt/black jeans
summer
1 pair of shorts/cropped trousers
3 vest tops/t shirts
1 light raincoat
1 pair of sandals/converse
1 swimming costume/bikini/trunks
as well as school uniform and stuff for weddings/funerals and socks and underwear etc

Normally I try to get everything in a theme, this year DD1 has gone for navy, white and red so it all matches.

They then have an allowance of £100 per month to pay for any other clothes, ie the red skinny jeans, hooker heels, body con skirt, etc. as well as make up, cinema trips with friends, friends birthday presents.

We normally go to somewhere they couldn't afford to buy all their clothes from normally (they have taken to Abercrombie and fitch in a big way atm) and that helps as its a treat to have the sometimes 'boring' clothes bought. I also use it as an opportunity to spend 1 on 1 time with each of them.

wow bella, you certainly have it sorted !

Fair play to ya. Thanks for replying.

haha am actually peapodlovescuddles, am on my nieces computer and didn't change nickname!