I don't really thinkthere is a solution to this one tbh.
I bet your friend thanks god for the break when they are at their dads - and i can't bloody blame her , but yesthe firm loving stance as zippi suggested is the way to go - but this has got to behard when splittin them half the wek.
then ther is the friends issue. TBH i think thats pure luck. i consider myself to be v. lucky as the twins have excellent friends and did at that age - however my oldes son managed to find te dossers and potheads!
andyou can't stop them froms eeing their friends.- unless you move!
i try not to fret over schoolwork as life is such thatat some point if you wan to go backinto education we are lucky in tis country that if you want to you can - and if ou want to - you will succeed - so not to much of a worry.
the mony for the fags - where she is buying thm and who is buying them for her couldmaybe be challenged.
i think the biggest thing that you coul do for her right now is get her some hope and some ambition.
kinda sit down with the internet and say - right - you ar going to have to do something - so if you could do anything as a career ( excluding pop star actress) what would it be?
vet
vet nurse
it
doctor
nurse
police
fire service
its at this point once youhave a ting - you can go onto a carers website and get her to see what qualifications she needs to try at.
you could organise a visit to these places - to see if it sparks something or leaves her flat and then you can try with something else - its the finding something thats going to be hard -playing to her strengths
it might be a "no bullshit" start
"look, school is a means to an ends - the ends is getting a job. your mum will not support you, your dadwill not support you, the government willnot support you - so - lets thing about this for a minute - if you don't want to end up on a council estate with three kids by the time you are 17 lliving off benefits and eating rice everyday - what do you want your life to be? becuase honey - youhave shitloads of it left"
the thing that sparks her interest mightn't be at school - think about something such as signing for the deaf - theres something she can do as a night course - a skill that she could have and no-one else.
i do think the crux of the matter is the parental split thng - it might be easier if the dad has them fri after school drops them off at school on mon morn ( or sees them off) then friend has them mon night, tue, wed, thurs fri - to see them off to school. that wayyour friend has the majority of the week - and as they get older all the weekend hassles of staying out and getting drunk etc - can be left to the dad to be primary shouter atter and mum to be backer upper?
good luck anyway - its a hard one