I know this is a strange one, but I need input from young mners and mums of teen girls.

[queen2shoes]

rather a long story which I won't bore you with. I would have to change so much to disguise girl it would get boring.
what i need help with is.....
the relationship between teen girls and their mums.
Is it normal for a girl of about 14 to hate her mum.
to call her mum rude names to all and sundry.
for the mother to rather her dd got a bus than got a lift (from a known adult)
basically I need to know all you can tell me about the kind of ups and downs mums and teen dd's have so I can get this into perspective. my dd is 13 but has sn. so I have no bench mark.

I've just left my teens and agree with ethanchristopher in a way as well juuule

Just because one 15 / 16 year old is lovely and another isn't doesn't mean one is right and one wrong.

People go through teens differently. At the end of the day no matter which you went through you aren't an adult in your teens and you haven't fully matured. You learn more about life etc in the last years of teens then throughout the bulk of it.

I know many teens that struggled through, found parents and relationships difficult and "hated" and "bitched" a lot. likewise i know many that did really well and were calm through teenage years. None of it is abnormal.

I "hated" my parents at the time but now realise how silly it all was and just a part of growing up and have a fantastic relationship with them now.

Maybe though it is not to do with age and that the two personalities just simply dont mix well.

I dont know

oh i just realised this is an old thread

moves away quietly..........

ethanchristopher, it is easy to love your baby at any age. It IS your mother's little baby, as a grand parent is just that. She must be going through hell to find teenage rejection at the same time as feeling the overwhelming love and protectiveness to her daughters beautiful boy and its mother. When you are not having a moody bitchy moment, let her know how much you appreciate all the help and support she is offering, as now you are a mum yourself you realise that everything you do is done unconditionally and that - although thanks aren't what WE do it for - it helps. The way you feel about this baby when it cries - this is how your mum is feeling now, and all her behaviour is just her way of to try to cope with such confusing feelings. Please try to make it a happy time for her too, not just you. As a teenage parent you could try to grow up and learn the mature emotion of empathy- indulging your selfish emotions is something a 15 yr old child - NOT parent - can afford to do. Your mum is just an easy target for your tiredness. Your dad has, as dad's usually do, got the easy role. He can only do this because he knows that your mum is so brilliant he can relax. There is much presumption here but LOATHE mum LOVE dad is so universal for that reason.

Sorry to lecture you, but your posting is heartbreaking for anyone who had hopes for their daughter to get through their teens and have a chance to see some different aspects of life before taking on the enormous responsibility of motherhood. Good luck to you all.

I am 15 and have always had a relatively good relationship with my mum. It hasn't been perfect but I wouldn't expect it to be. We both have quite different personalities and tend to clash a bit (!) but I still love her, and she is, after all, my mum.

Like all teenagers and looking at other posts on here, we have had the usual spats and arguments and we both have said things we regret. It is normal, I think, for this to happen as not every girl is the same as her Mum. Just going off the point a bit - me and my Dad get on better, than me and my Mum as we are similar. Or maybe teenage girls get on better with their Dads anyway!

All I'm trying to say is:
Yes it's normal, the daughter will hopefully grow out of it and they will eventually have a stronger relationship.

It has taken me 14 years to have the relationship I have with my Mum now, but despite the past, I love her and we are happy.