Do your teens tell you where they go and who with?

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Or do you just give them a time to be home.

What are your expectations for a 15.5 girl or boy?

Just mum. I am going out, will be back at xx

Mine are quite open about what they are doing and who with.

Not quite there yet but a where they are going and who with what time.back and check over meal plans will be expected. A cursory text if plans change once out of needed. Ours will be heavily reliant on lifts so change of location with in walking distance fine (no update) but anything that requires lift from.us or.another parent then expect to be updated.

My kids are both out now.

Dd15 said Is it ok if I go out? I'm just going to hang out at (friend's name)'s house?

Ds13 said Is it ok if I go out? I asked where and who with?
He always says Why do you want to know?
I always answer because I'm your mum and that's my job! and then he laughs and tells me.
This evening he was just meeting a friend at the little park a couple of minutes up the road.

The rule is tell me where you are going, who is going to be there, and what time I should worry if you don’t return home. Contact me if plans change. We don’t do set curfews, just communication.

its difficult for kids to lie these days anyway. The phone I pay for that never leaves her side is trackable.

as parents, we apply these same rules to ourselves. We share where we are going and when we expect to return. If plans change, we let her know so she doesn’t worry. She also can track us just if she is inclined. I have no idea if she ever bothers to check.

I dont track my teen which i know is unusual. But I just don't think it'd good for them or for me to always know every move they make.

My 14 year old will sometimes go to the park straight trom school and won't think to tell me until I message asking..

He does sometimes.go out with friends and not give me much detail but he is usually at a park or a friend's.

At this age, dd told me where she was going and who with. At 15, you do have the right to say your dc how often they can go out, eg the need to stay in to have the energy for school, study / for exams, grandma is coming over next Wednesday etc.

My dd is almost 18 now and still tells me what she’s doing. Because it’s polite. Now it’s more ’we are going down the pub’. Idk which one btw, but I can find her if needs be. And I still have needed put parameters in for her, to ensure she’s getting enough study and rest during A levels. It really depends on the individual, I think.

The expectation is they tell you. Obviously kids can lie, but modelling openness and expecting honesty is normal.

Tracking is unhealthy, I wouldn't do that.

Yes they did: who, what, where, time home. Still do and they are 31 and 28 - it's part of normal communication.

I was at my mum's last weekend and I went out. Meeting R mum, we're having a quick drink, at y, will be back by 10. R and I are 66 .

Yes, they say where and with who but if plans change I don’t always get an update but have them on Find My Friend.

My 17 year old still tells me where he’s going and who he’s with, and roughly when he’ll be home, not because I demand it but because that’s just what we’ve always done. I do mean “we” because I tell him where I’m going too and when I’ll be back.

Yes we all have open lines of communication of approximately who is where and doing what. Nothing demanded, all volunteered info. We often have their friends back because of location and they will always asked in advance. DS15 and 18.

Yes. We have always been open with each other. Also, as all of DD's friends lived somewhere inaccessible by foot or public transport she needed me to give her a lift, so I always knew where she was and who she was with.

None of her schoolfriends lived in our village.

Yes, DS is 16 and his friends 17, and he’ll tell me if he knows, but sometimes they’ll go out for the afternoon and they don’t have definite plans. I do expect him to be contactable though if I text to check what time he’ll be back or whatever.

Mine will tell me there plans, meeting x at y. And I like the to text me when they arrive so I know. I had to stop one texting me constantly with all the details, he was like leaving x house going to park, home now, going to... And I was just like it's fine, just let me know if you leave the local area but otherwise let me know you've arrived and when you are coming home. He's very sensible though, he just comes home if he doesn't like what his friends are planning on doing.

This is what my youngest is like! Haven’t told them to stop yet (even though it is too much) as am pleased one of them keeps me up updated.