My 17-year-old had a car accident - he’s okay, but I’m shaken [Title edit by MNHQ]

[ThatVividPinkOtter]

My 17 year had crashed his car. "Mam I've had a big crash, the car is on its side and i can't get out im trapped". He's fine, shock up and devastated he's written his car off. He was going through lanes ( told him never to go through lanes) and a van came around a blind bend, he swerved to dry to avoid him, went up the banking and flipped into the van. He's been driving for 6 months and all fairness hes a careful driver. He wasn't speeding as his black box didn't show it. Im so gutted for him. Everyone is saying this will be a big lesson for him. Anyone's teenager had a accident and learnt from it? I was really nervous when he first past, but I got over that. I dont want to be over the top in the future 😫

Such an insensitive title, id get it changed quickly

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She specifically said he was going over the lanes. It’s in the original post.

she said she even warned him not to do that. And that when it happened a van was coming round the bend and he hit it and flipped his car.

it’s all in the original post

She means country lanes!

Through lanes, not over lanes. You know, the roads that existed before dual carriageways and motorways. Often only 1 car wide and with passing places.

Then she’d have said he was driving on through lanes. She just said he was “going through lanes.”

Thats like saying “I’m going shops” when you mean “I’m going to the shops”.

Either he was driving on through lanes or he was cutting corners by driving through lanes. She said the latter.

And anyway, through lanes are not the same as country/back roads. A through lane cuts straight through a junction, or connects main roads without any turn offs to avoid going through junctions and roundabouts. So there’d be no blind bends.

Friggin hell..... it's clearly the worst phone call OP has ever had...... she isn't minimising anyone else's losses ect so I don't see the need for the pile on

My child died over 13 years ago, a lot of things don't seem as dramatic to me since then.... but I do understand receiving a phonecall like that being the worst thing that's ever happened a person

Lanes as in country lanes,😳🤣🙇🏻‍♀️

I’m fairly certain the OP meant single track lanes. I was on holiday this week and the sat nav sent me down some - once on them it’s too late! The hedges have grown so much it was a little scary - and I’m a confident driver who doesn’t scare easily. I don’t think I’ve ever driven as slowly as I did in my life lol.

Having seen other vehicles on these types of roads, but especially van drivers, I wouldn’t be surprised if the van was driving too quickly.

I am glad your son is ok - and glad the title has been changed on this thread as I opened it thinking you were going to need support for a lost child.

She said it was the worst phone call any parent could ever have. So obviously a bunch of parents who have lost a child would come on to console her. But her kid was absolutely fine, he was just driving in a way that wasn’t safe for the road he was on and caused an accident.

Glad he's okay op

Huge lesson learned, noones a perfect driver x

She said “through lanes” twice, which I took to mean driving through (country) lanes like this one.……. No idea what a “through lane” is (as a noun).

I don’t understand what “going through lanes” means either?

you drive along lines, go through junctions, how do you on”through” a lane?

Common turn of phrase here.

“which way did you come?” “Through the lanes from X town.”

”Motorway was snarled up so I went over the mountain and through the lanes.”

More likely a 50/50 given the can also couldn’t stop in time.

She said he was “going through lanes” and she had told him not to “go through lanes.” She’s using it as a verb, not a noun. So he was going over onto the other lane to cut corners. At a blind bend. And almost hit a van.

Unless she actually mean he was “driving on through lanes”. But that’s not the name used for back/country roads. And that’s not what she said.

No one talks like that. They say they took the back roads. Not “I came over lanes.”

You missed the original title, that’s where the pile on came from.

This is what “lanes” mean around here. And we go through them to get to places. 🤷🏻‍♀️

You can also go up a lane, down a lane, round the lanes……..

NOBODY HAS SAID “OVER LANES”.

I have never heard anyone say "driving on through lanes".

It's very common to say "I drove through the lanes to get here" or "I drove through town on my way home".

Maybe it's just the way we speak in the country, where we often have to drive through lanes to get home.

Maybe different areas have different dialect/phrases.

I can barely understand my northern in laws when they say “while 3 o’clock” instead of “at 3 o’clock” but I don’t harangue them for it!

I read it as driving on country lanes as well. So I think we would need clarification before we can conclude one way or the other.

OP, obviously your post wasn't perfect worded but unsurprisingly you'll be in a flap given what's happened. I'm glad your son is okay, still a nightmare re the write off though.

If I got a phonecall like that off my child I would rate it as one of the worst phonecalls a parent could get, I'd be terrified.

OP was probably still in shock when she wrote it that way, she's not worded it the best but I do understand what she means...... and if I had never experienced the death of a child I would probably feel and think that a phonecall like that is the worst call I could of ever got

around here you can use the main roads or 'cut through the lanes' 'go through the lanes' to avoid the traffic. it's a common enough way to say it.

But it's a death wish really b! The lanes are used as a race track, van drivers, stock being moved, big, wide, farm machinery...

& that's before you consider the actual wildlife!!

where I lived before here, the country lanes were the only roads & not called 'the lanes' it was still pretty scary the speed some drivers took them at, not to mention their shit road placement!