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annajw23 · 24/05/2026 19:22

I have posted before DD13, struggling socially. She has anxiety and pastoral support from School. We are currently going through autism assessments.

she is such a lovely kid, very loyal, not a pushover and will stick up for the under dog, but always seems to be on the periphery of groups. She has tried to organise to see friends over half term but feel that they have made excuses and don’t want to but found out that they have organised a big group shopping trip but didnt invite her. The girl exclusion, cliches, changing dynamics etc, she is lonely.

She does extra curricular stuff to get her socialising outside of school and has some good friends there. I guess I had hoped that after two years of high school she might be finding her people or it may be easier.

my question is, does it get easier? Will she be ok? She talks to me and knows I am there to listen but feel powerless.

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SimonReevesbagcarrier · 24/05/2026 21:49

I’m sorry to hear you are going through this. I feel your pain, my DC has just said they don’t want to go to prom as they have no one to go with. I am heartbroken (not showing it) but my DC has no proper friends at school but lots outside of school, I don’t understand why. I think what happens is that everyone is vying to be “popular” and if your face doesn’t fit or you’re in anyway a bit different it’s very hard to break in. Everyone is trying not to be bottom of a very competitive social pile. If your DD has friends outside of school celebrate those. Your DD can clearly form friendships which is great.
In my experience the cliques are a hotbed of misery and drama. Also, please impress on your DD that all the fun social media posts only show one side. Not everyone is having quite as fun as they make out.
Hugs to you and your daughter.

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