Do you let your kids wear whatever they want?

[Anothersunnyday9]

DD15 wear clothes to school which she loves.

Occasionally on a nice sunny day she may go for a very small crop top.

Do you suggest something? Say something. she is more into fashion and things like that.

A very small top and very short tops is a bit much I think.

There is always something for parents to worry about. Or is it just me?

Does the school allow it? If so, probably a lot of the girls wear the same thing.

I wouldn't comment on the clothes of a child this age unless entirely inappropriate e.g. gym clothes to a funeral.

My DD used to wear some ‘interesting’ combos when 10-14 and i watched with interest - nothing revealing though. I worked on the basis of letting her get it out of her system and it seems to have worked! She looks fab now (33)

Yes but mine never really pushed boundaries.

ds wore some hideous colour combos but that’s not my problem.

Yes, it is a very open school.

I will keep my mouth shut going forward. I did say: Isn’t this top a bit small for school 🙈

Don’t want to pass all my worries and anxieties to my kids.

I think is a bit revealing though; that is my concern

The only limit for me was if they were doing something with me that I was paying for them. So a restaurant in joggers - not invited.
I fucking hate the way they let it all hang out or dress like bag ladies. But I shut my mouth 99% of the time.

Thank you. I just think the top is fart too short and revealing; more appropriate for the beach. Specially if she wears it with small shorts.

I think it's a phase ... my daughter was the same at 15/16; I used to do the same tongue biting about about how short/low cut some things were. (although one time my daughter pointed out that what she wore was actually conservative compared to some of her school friends).

By the time she was 18, she a bit more discerning. She still likes crop tops, but she wears them more selectively and typically with jeans, and is as likely to pull on a baggy T shirt for every day.

I never let my child dress half naked there is no need. If it's warm enough for that then you need to cover up to protect from sun damage. As a teenager she wore shorts just above the knee with full T-shirt or dresses

My daughter is only 14 so from a safety perspective I let her know if I think something is too revealing and we discuss an alternative. I tell her men shouldn’t look but they do and is that what she wants?

Her dad would be concerned as well if she was wearing something very revealing.

I know that sounds slightly out of time these days but better safe than sorry in my view.

I think kids should be able to dress how they like. I agree with the no gym clothes to a funeral approach but otherwise let her be.

my 17 yo is the opposite. She lives in loose trousers and oversized sweatshirts. She has a fabulous hourglass figure and doesn’t like the attention she gets.

DSD is 13 and has similar age cousins etc. in our house we very much have a clothes are clothes policy. If you feel happy and confident in an outfit. It is fine. We keep quiet. For any occasion. I’ve also never understood the objection to revealing clothes. They are generally not problems for the wearer.

DSil seems to battle with her daughters about clothes and outfits and it just becomes a source of frustration for everyone. I’ve never really understood it.

I do, for the most part. I am glad my daughter’s school has a uniform though! She’s 11 and generally I’m happy with her choices. If she insists on going out without warm enough clothes on a chilly day I let her and try to resist the urge to say I told you so when she complains of being cold!
I’m not overly bothered by her tummy showing, but I’d draw the line at a bikini top for walking about shops or the cinema and I’d have to say no way to those overly short shorts that show part of the actual buttock!

DD has crop tops that I bought her. We live in the north east of England though so she usually wears them with a cardigan!

If they have the confidence to wear those things let them. Do not squash their confidence - there are plenty of other people out there ready to do that.

Which country are you in? Here in the UK they have to wear uniform so this would totally not be acceptable.

If it's not against the school dress code or totally inappropriate for the occasion (e.g gym clothes at funeral scenario mentioned above) then let it go especially if the child is buying/making their own clothes. Being an adult and making appropriate decisions doesn't happen overnight and having control over clothing (and what reaction that clothing gets from others or realising that it doesn't suit the weather/activity) is part of the growing up process.
My Grandma was quite old fashioned in her views on what was suitable attire so I quickly learned that I didn't visit her wearing short skirts etc if I wanted a peaceful visit, also learnt that white trainers aren't great if you're going hiking and jeans with a heavy sweatshirt get too warm on a summer day.