WIsh me luck...'m gonna need it.

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We are expecting long stay guests from tomorrow evening. they will be staying in the double bedroom which is curently ds2's

i am not overly arsey about teenagers rooms, it they like to live in shit - theats their business - i do occasionally send them scouting for pots when i run out

i hope this has created a 'shithole' impression - becuase that is exactly what it is.

2 days ago i asked him to tidy his room

he pottered about and made no real effort. So i went up and said sternly and loudly - but not screaming or ranting - that the room needs to be done.

i am then faced with a barrage of abuse. - i tell him he is grounded this weekend and leave.

I ask dh jto tell him to tidy his room as i wish to have no further dealings with him until he apoligises.

the room - gets to a point where the carpet is visible.

this isn't the same as tidy.

Now dh is away helping to ferry our guests - he shall be driving over 700 miles in two days.

I have the rest of the house to tidy - and i am knacked. ( i wsahed winders, cleaned fridge seals and everything!!)

i have givenhim time to wind down from school- it is mocks week - i can hear a film playing.

I seriously havent got the time to sit on his bed reading a book ( like whats i used to do when he was 6)

i havent said a word to him for 2 days - it's not something i would advocate to other mumsnetters and i know i should go up and alk to him rationally, make him see myside, give an incentive, play on his heart strings a little by explaining our guests predicament

but i just want to rip his head off and shit down his neck.

i am about toturn off games consoles, tv's and puter.

WISH ME LUCK

understand your pain..good luck with it

Been there,done that.......

Good luck!!

Full total and complete empathy and understanding.
Now breathe deeply....
OMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM

Eek! No advice.
Last time I removed all electronic equipment dd left home.
Still hasn't come back.....

You can't appeal to his better nature - they probably don't have one, do they?

OMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM

Perhaps pleading? Go on, make it about you. you don't want your friends to sleep in a room that you wouldn't want to sleep in -perhaps not - they'll end up in your room.

OMMMMMMMMMMMMMM

You are one brave woman.

Go for it, custy!

Howd it go? You have my deepest sympathies, I can't figure dd1 out at all! Seriously impressed with fridge seal cleaning, have you polished the roof tiles yet?

i didn't raise my voice once. At one stage i found him quite intimidating actually but i never raised my voice or said any thing out of turn.

i removed his computer - the base unit is infront of me.

Each time he left the room to piss about i went in and took something else. i took the x box and hid it in the airing cupboard.

i took the stereo - and had a bath listening to 'gold' music from the 60 -80's fantastic.

i came down to find him on DH's computer - i told him to remove himself.

he turned the telly on

I turned it off

he cleaned his room and finished hoovering at gone 10pm

thats over 4 hours.

in total

2 days and 4 hours.

when finished he asked if he could have his computer back

i declined

i had ordered pizza

he gave me his pepperoni - that might be an olive branch in his book

i want a verbal apology.

dh phoned and is not happy.

i don't think i am going to return his computer, if i do i think i will cancel his subsciption to a game he has.

this behaviour is unacceptable - he might not mean to be intimidating but i was close to tears

that you felt intimidated, custy.
the pepperoni offering is a good sign though.

I'm seriously impressed custy! I find it so hard to keep my composure, I don't know about counting to ten, more like 1000! Hope your guests appreciated the effort.