Ds is 17 and has been with his girlfriend for about 9 months, she is the same age and a lovely girl. A few months ago I was home alone with both of them (during the day) and suddenly realised they were having very loud sex upstairs. I left the house because I couldn’t stop them without going into his room but also didn’t want to sit there and listen! I sent a short text telling him I could hear everything and that it was disrespectful, his girlfriend was so upset and he was mortified so I left it at that. Now tonight.. DH went to bed, son and gf were in his room (she’s allowed to stay over once a week) and I stayed downstairs with my youngest (12) watching a programme. We decide to go to bed and as we get to the top of the stairs we can hear them having sex, dd rushes into bathroom and shuts the door then I just hammer loudly on their door a couple of times. I wait for dd and put her to bed. I go into my room and I’m fuming, I don’t want my 12 year old hearing her brother have sex it’s gross. So I text him and basically tell him I’m fuming, they are disrespectful and that she is no longer allowed to sleep over until they both grow up and learn some basic manners. I also told him that his sister could hear every thing.
Im so bloody angry with them both, I’m not a prude and I was also 17 once but I just find it so rude that neither of them could give a shit that one of us might hear them and the fact that his little sister did hear him (that’s what’s bothering me the most). So what happens tomorrow? She definitely isn’t staying over again for a while but I feel like that isn’t enough, do I make him keep the door open when she’s here? Or is that ridiculous because he’s 17? Is it enough that I’ve said she can’t stay over? I bloody treated him today to £150 of clothes for summer and now I feel like sending them all back.
What would you do? I’m not sure how hard I need to come down.