Please be kind. I'm looking for advice.
DS17 has been dating a girl for 8 months apparently. They really have not seen eachother a lot in this time. She has very recently been to our house twice during which they have been in the kitchen and lounge.
The problem is, she's 14. She turns 15 soon but then he turns 18. It's far from ideal. We've explained about statutory rape, about how explicit messages could be deemed to be child abuse.
Her mother has gone ballistic. She phones often asking what 'we should do about the situation?' She will not allow DS in her house or her daughter to get in his car. Neither of these things have happened. The mother is now worried because her daughter has started to lie to her. (This girl is number 5 of 5 kids so I naively thought she'd have more idea than me what to do regarding parenting teenagers? DS is my eldest & I only have two kids!) The two occasions the girl has been to our house, she has been dropped off & collected by her parents.
I was of the mindset of 'leave it, it will run its course. He'll get bored. She's lovely & very pretty indeed but he will not want to be saddled with somebody so much younger when he's 18 & will just be starting out in life.' The more fuss the girl's mother makes, the more this girl is digging her heels in & wanting to see DS. ALL of DS's friends have dumped him due to this relationship. He has noone else to talk to now, only his girlfriend. Currently, DS is talking to me more than he has for a while. He has just showed me the background photo his girlfriend has on her phone of them both. It is cute, just a shame this girl isn't 16. I want to keep communication open between us but I am sad that he's lost his mates and that this situation even exists.
Any wise Mumsnetters out there who may have experienced similar? If DS and his girlfriend just keep hanging out together then it could be fine but of course any sexual activity of any description could be disastrous.