First time posting please handle with care...
Divorced from ex for 4 years, boys are 15 and nearly 13. 15 yr old has had an up and down r/ship with Dad for a few years...he is now refusing to see him after a recent incident. Ex blames me and feels I should be punishing him for not seeing him....we have non court ordered 50 50 and now ex says he won't have our 13 year old either as he doesn't want them split up...advice please? I am gently encouraging, suggesting I meet him with him, suggesting he message him etc, It doesn't feel right to force contact by punishing?