Teenage daughter and friend issues..feel helpless

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dd is 16 and has the same best friend since they started high school. They done every thing together, walked to school, sleepovers, met at the weekend. Best friend now has a boyfriend and has totally dropped my daughter. She no longer walks to school with dd as she meets bf and if she sees them on the way they ignore her, she’s doesn’t want to sleepover because she is with bf all
day every day. Im quite surprised her parent is allowing it as he sits in her bedroom with her every day after school until late.

I just feel really sad for dd as she no longer goes out or talks to her on the phone. She has other friends at school but she says she really liked this other best friend. She sits in her room most nights. I try to encourage her to call other friends but she won’t 😢

That's disappointing for her but I would have always encouraged more friendships than only one.

It’s tricky but honestly friendships are fickle. Especially at that age.

we’ve had all the teenage dramas including a friend group turning on my DD and excluding her.

this too shall pass. I wouldn’t get involved in judgement of how the friend is behaving. If you start being negative then it’s tricky to come back from.

Id just keep calm and know that it won’t always feel this way. Encourage other activities and friendships.

I’ve always told her to have more than one friend and encouraged her to go out and invite other friends round. I just feel real sad and I remember similar at that age

Children do grow out of friendships. What people have in common at eleven they might not have at sixteen. There’s not much that can be done about it really. If she was my dd I’d be making sure she was involved with other things and other people.

And I’d this was happening to me I’d say to my friend that I would always be there for her if she ever needed me.

Not much you can do except talking to her what constitutes a good friendship and encouraging her to socialise with others
You are right what is the other girls parents thinking of because if they split up her daughter will be alone

Pretty par for the course with teenagers. I remember both being the one with the boyfriend who forgot I had friends and the friend who was forgotten. Is she in Year 11? If so it's not the end of the world to have some time in the house on an evening to get on with revision. If she still has friends at school she will eventually naturally start to communicate with them outside of school etc. Friendships are fluid and naturally will change as they get older and move for college or get boyfriends, jobs etc.

The friend will regret her actions in time

It's hurtful and disappointing for her, but it's something that happens to every kid. At least she has other friends, but she'll probably end up doing it to one of them as well.

Yes this.
i remember my best friend doing this to me and its really really upsetting -
she eventually finished with this lad but the damage was done and i’d
moved on a bit,
my mum was really good and made me go to youth club and join a dance class and helped me get a little part time job.
we are still in touch now but she’s always the one who ditched me years ago and that spoilt things a bit

girls who ditch their friends and don’t do anything outside their relationship often end up lonely - my mums friend did literally everything with her husband and then he died and she had to completely rebuild shed even agree to meet my mum for a coffee anD hed be tagging along it was
bizarre!