My middle daughter was always my easiest. So chilled, so laid back and kind empathic to others.
She struggled academically at school and was bullied badly.
She left school and went college and was attacked on her second day as a 'mistaken identity'. It ruined her. She dropped out, lost her friends and took her a long time to recover.
She got a job in a cafe and thrived. She was back to her smiley friendly self. She earned money and became more independent. She flourished!
In November last year she told me that she had met a boy and she loved him. She began to become argumentative at home and refused to help around the house. She would bite at everything I said. One evening there was row as I had said that maybe she should go on contraception, tidy her room etc.
she left home that night and moved in with his family an hour away. She cut all contact with me for 9 months and it was unbearable.
On Monday she called me to say that he had cheated on her and would I collect her which I did. It turns out that none of his family work and claim benefits for everything. He is part of a gang and carries knives. He has many convictions and sees no need to work and neither should she. She left her job when she left me.
She tells me last night that she loves him, that she misses him and wants to go back to him.
I cannot stop her she is now 19. She has really let go of herself and has very little self worth. Doesn't want to work, doesn't want to make friends.
I'm so worried for her and I'm trying very hard not to tell her that he is no good for her.
Anyone been through similar?