Punishments for 16 year old

[Dairymilkisminging]

So if your teen has done something bad what punishments would you impose?

Like grounding and taking phone off her seems like cutting her off from social network. But both things tie to the crime (she was bullying another girl online and with friends)

Shes currently one week into no phone and grounding. Shes showing no signs of remorse which is making things more difficult.
Thinking about getting a brick phone least then Shes contactable.

Would you do the same? 16 is such a child and not at the same time. In Scotland if that makes a difference

Home isnt so well its like she holds in everything that happens through the day then explodes when home then is okish after the explosion

The autism thing has been mentioned before by a teacher but according to the gp she dosent meet the criteria

I would remove her phone, cut off internet access apart from essential school access, and ground her until she starts to show remorse.

I was going to say that I wouldn’t punish… but I certainly wouldn’t be paying for a phone that’s being used to bully people. She’d have no phone if she were mine. Cutting her off from those social networks doesn’t sound like a bad thing.

Presume you're in Scotland as you keep referring to her as a lassie? She could just walk out the door, get housed by the Council homeless unit and claim UC so I would be careful not to push her too far into a totally miserable existence.

Punishing her, or “consequences” if this word is more acceptable to you, won’t put right what she did and it won’t prevent her from doing it again.

Gps are not qualified to diagnose autism. You could ask for a camhs referral. See if you can find local autism groups for advice re what to do to get her assessed.

I don't agree with keeping her phone indefinitely (some are suggesting total removal) - I think she needs a way to speak to friends.

Some young people (and adults!) aren't great at apologising - it doesn't mean she isn't sorry? Have you talked it through with her without any more punishment threats? The problem with ongoing punishments is she might not open up to talk properly if it stays tense.

Mmm, not sure that's true or society would be anarchy. Most people obey the law, at least in part, because they understand bad things will happen to them if they don't.