Any ideas on how to deal with this? 13-year-old girl has got 15-year-old boyfriend who is homeschooled, he is also autistic so has certain traits. She is obsessed with him. Goes round there every night and most of the weekend (not sleeping over though). Since she met him her schoolwork has gone down, I have had numerous battles to get it to actually go to school, to the point that now she’s refusing to go altogether. She went one day last week and then truanted all the morning lessons. The School have been as helpful as they can, but I can see that very soon they will lose patientce and I will end up in serious trouble over her absence. I really don’t know what to do. I’m at the end of my tether with her. Clearly, I cannot man handle her to get her out of bed. She screams like a banshee if she is challenged about getting up for school and I am to the point I am fearful she will probably attack me. Clearly she has issues which all seem to have started since she’s become obsessed with this boy. I am on reasonably good terms with my ex husband, her father. However, his only advice is that.” there needs to be consequences.” Easy for him to say given that he’s not dealing with it every day but consequences such as what? Cannot remove the mobile phone from her altogether as otherwise I will have no idea where she is, it already has some restrictions on it. Other than removing every single personal item out of her room such as a clothes and make-up I can’t really see what other consequences there are. She doesn’t have a bank account and I refuse to give her cash as when she’s had money it’s all spent on him. Stopping her seeing him would be the solution but I Can’t physically stop her seeing the boy as she just walks out of the house in defiance and has a hysterical meltdown if challenged. So that’s unrealistic. Have tried limiting days in week etc, talking with his mother but she’s not particularly interested as in effect my child is being used to amuse him so she doesn’t have to, at least it seems that way. The boy seems to be emotionless most of the time other than to accuse her of dressing like a slapper and cheating on him, when all she did was dress nicely and sent him a photo of herself with me one day we were at the shops! Even his own grandmother who I know doesn’t like him and feels her daughter in law isn’t being fair to me. I really don’t know what to do. I’m feeling so down about all of this because there seems to be no light at the end of the tunnel. Tried Drs but nothing there. TBH I think she now has mental health issues because of the way she’s behaving. I’m seeing the School this week because of her continued absence, they want to see her with me – that’s of course if I can actually get her to get out of bed to go with me. My parents are very wary of being around her now as one time she accused my mother of hitting her which never happened and she’s since admitted that it was all lies. So they can’t really help me either as she could so easily do this again. My mum was distraught as she had a phone call from school with this accusation and my daughter has never apologised to her despite being asked. Any ideas welcome as I really don’t know what to do. I was never a rebellious teen, not the brightest and ok I tried to dodge PE but I did go. Unfortunately she takes after her father for temper and various traits. Sorry for the long post but just need to get it off my chest. Thank you.