Anyone ever feel like running away?

[HelpfulAnnie]

Older teen is self sufficient and doesn’t need me. Younger teen is troubled but refuses to talk. Husband and younger teen both neurodiverse. The house is constantly a shit tip no matter how hard I try. I lost touch with friends after a bit of friction a few years back over something silly so I don’t have any outlet to vent. I’m having a stressful time at work. I am definitely perimenopausal. Husband is constantly annoyed because he thinks I exclude him from parenting decisions, when I just see it as a continuation of always having been the primary caregiver - I just make decisions on the spot and don’t think to say wait til I ask dad. He never complained about this when the kids were younger and it suited him to be free to do as he pleased, but now it’s an issue. I feel like throwing my hands up, saying fine you deal with it then and leaving. Not forever, but long enough that they have time to miss me. I won’t do it of course; young teen doesn’t need any more reasons to feel down plus I’m skint and couldn’t really afford it anyway. And I do love them all. But FML, how has it come to this?

No matter what happens you should stay committed. But what you can do is when he complains watch and wait around them. Do not say anything until they speak.

Hello, I'm coming to this late because I was just on the teenagers board looking for anyone who was struggling and wanting to run away - and there you are!

I have the self-sufficient teen, the neurodivergent non-speaking teen and the probably neurodivergent husband but he wouldn't mind if I made every decision from now til the end of time. He can't even go to the shop without ringing me to see what we might need, and I promise you I am not controlling when it comes to house stuff; I would outsource it all if I had the wherewithal.

Yes, Yes I do feel like tossing everything up in the air and running away. When older, self-sufficient teen leaves for Uni I'm not sure anyone will have a conversation with me again!!!

Yes! I dream about running away. Only temporarily but just to have a break. Lone parent, knackered at 55 working FT, one neuro divergent teen age 14 who is sending me doolally with constant school stress. Useless ex-non parent who does nothing to contribute either emotionally or financially. My life feels hard and I’m tired. I’m holding out for the end of mainstream school next summer - cannot fucking wait - and a house move somewhere cheaper so I’ve got a bit more spending power. Roll on the older independent years. Never thought I’d be wishing away childhood but the past 3 years have been a nightmare.

Yep nearly everyday, when I've been told numerous times that I'm useless or a f*ing whatever and their not even a teen yet only a neuro divergent tween.
Older just teen is getting easier but god they wind each other up.
Useless father who doesn't nothing and only ever says the opposite to what I say.
Older teen barely speaks to him any more as 95% of the time he just nags.

Would love to just walk away long enough so they realise what I actually do each and everyday without then noticing.

Sorry you are all feeling the same but it’s nice to feel some solidarity with others who are going through similar. I was feeling so down the other night, I just needed to vent and writing it here helped get it off my chest!

Yep, have 2 teens close in age. One will be off to Uni in September, the other we think is neurodivergent but refusing to accept it. Every day is a worry, there's always some drama or issue. Last few years have been really tough. I often think about running away... it's hard for my friends (the ones I have left) to understand how difficult it is. I feel like I'm constantly miserable!

Everything else in my life is going to pot as well at the moment, so I'm permanently drained.

Yes ! Frustrating as well , as we got to age 17 and 11 m fairly ok - we had rough bits and once or twice a month there would be a drama - but since then it’s been horrific.
I just wish she would move out now because I don’t know what to do to help, and I can’t cope with the lack of sleep and stress.

Yep me. 17 DS who hates my guts, refuses point blank ti let me parent him in any way and seems to go out of his way to make my life as miserable as possible. It’s been going on for years now and I’m done. There is no relationship to salvage now, he’s made sure of that. If it wasn’t for my younger DC I’d get in my car now and disappear

Yes I have been wanting to run away for years. 17 DD with autism, eating disorder, depression, anxiety and self harming. She has very poor hygiene which is difficult for me as I like things very clean. She won't wash her hands so the house gets filthy. My life is preparing meals for her all on separate dishes so nothing is touching. I am her scapegoat so she takes everything out on me. She can't seem to cope with basic things in life.

All the hospital appointments are taking over my life.